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I'm 15 and a female. well, there is this kid in 2 of my classes and ever since the beginning of school we've been really good friends. He always says like stupid or gross jokes and i kinda laugh at how like stupid it is and he just laughs at me in a nice way because he knows i think its funny/stupid. but like this whole year i just have been putting in my mind that hes a friend and nothing else. because my friend kara thinks hes a total weirdo but they are still kinda friends. which is confusing but, haha. I think we flirt but don't really realize it. like i sit next to him in biology and he always pokes me and stuff because he knows it bugs me. but in a good kind of way? my biology teacher always joked about how we should date, but i never thought anything of it because my mind would think its just "him". but now I can help but think, do I like like him? I'm not sure what I should think. He has a girlfriend too but I want to know what he thinks of me, but I don't want to ask him because that would totally ruin everything, atleast i think.. Help!
If he has a girlfriend, don't pursue anything. You shouldn't ask him if he likes you, that might just make your friendship awkward. First, make sure that you do like him. Ask yourself some questions:
*Can I see myself kissing him?
*Can I see us hanging out outside of school and sharing feelings?
*Do I think about him often when I'm not with him?
*Do I miss him when we're not together?
*Am I attracted to him?
*Can I imagine talking to him all night on the phone?
If you answer yes to these things, you probably like him. Unfortunately, he still does have a girlfriend. You don't want to start drama or make anyone uncomfortable. Try to keep in touch with him over summer break. See if he wants to hang out some and try to get to know him better. If him and his girl do break up, then you can ask him how he feels. Say something casual like, "We've gotten to know each other really well over the past year, have you ever thought of us as anything more than friends?"
That way you're leaving it open. It's just an open-ended question. It doesn't come out and say that you like him and it doesn't say that you don't. It just opens things up and leaves room for a new way to think about each other.
Darby(:
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thanks for the advice!
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