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My name is Darby. I'm seventeen years old. Feel free to e-mail or message me with any question. My e-mail is yo.darbyjay@live.com I will answer anything to the best of my ability. I decided to join this site because I love giving advice and have been told that I'm good at it. I get on every day. Usually a few times. You can also add me on AIM: OiScumPunk@aim.com.
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at age 16 i had sex with my best friend (he was my first) & we weren't dating. hes very sexually active but hes gay, but will pretty much do it with anyone good looking. one month later after we did it a couple more times he asked me out. (me not thinking i said yes) and we dated a week before he broke up with me because he thought of me more as a sister. we agreed not to do anything anymore to save my feelings. we only kissed one more time on new years and once or twice he kissed me on the check. its 7 months since we first did it and i've realized im in love with him. but the problem is we are hardly friends anymore, he has this sarcastic rude sense of humore that hurts my feelings and yet i still love him. he really hurts me sometimes and he makes joke about how when we did it it was so awful.hes gay but im in love with him. what do i do, i know i need to forget about him but i dont know how. (please dont go all "hes not gay if he...." its kinda irrelevant" thank you so much!
This guy does sound like a complete jerk. You deserve someone that wants to be with you, not some lowlife that can't make up his mind about anything. He doesn't need to be making jokes about how the sex you two had was awful. He just sounds like a little punk and you're right; you need to move on! Completely break off contact with him. Luckily, summer is coming up, so if you go to the same school, you may not see him again until autumn.
That's a perfect chance for you to open yourself up to new relationships. Hang out with your girl friends. Have a few sleepovers and girl nights. Go to the skating rink, the pool, the mall, the theatre. Anything that occupies your time will be less time you can think about this loser.
Don't text him. Don't call him. Don't respond to him. The only way to truly get over it is to break off contact completely, at least until you're over the love you have for him.
After a while, you'll notice yourself thinking about him less and less. You won't even understand what you saw in him sooner or later. It will take time and effort, but you can do it.
Keep your eyes open for opportunities to meet new guys, and don't be afraid to date a little, even though you still love this guy. You don't have to commit to anything serious. But hanging out and talking to new people will only do you good at this point.
Good luck!
Darby(:
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i really like ur suggestions, it will be very hard cuz hes one of those ppl who are like "okay friends are disposable w/e" and it will hurt me to know he doesnt care but maybe its best. email:iscream4bananas
thx :)
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