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My name is Darby. I'm seventeen years old. Feel free to e-mail or message me with any question. My e-mail is yo.darbyjay@live.com I will answer anything to the best of my ability. I decided to join this site because I love giving advice and have been told that I'm good at it. I get on every day. Usually a few times. You can also add me on AIM: OiScumPunk@aim.com.
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Well I'm 18/m. I guess the title says it all? Basically I've been single for far too long, and my last relationship was ended by the girl. Ever since then, I've lost my confidence in talking to other girls, I just don't have any good communication skills any more. I've also got that "nerd" image, but I've changed my hairstyle and I'm now wearing contacts, just to sort've lose that image. But I've still got that background of a "nerd". Any ideas on how I can gain back my confidence? + I don't have very good communication skills!:( Help!!
You should search the relationship questions on here. There are tons of them from girls that feel exactly like you do. I think if guys and girls understood that they're both self conscious and nervous when talking to each other, things would be a lot easier as far as relationships go.
The only way to get good communication skills is to practice. When a guy talks to me and is nervous, it's definitely not an immediate turnoff. It just makes me feel like I should let them know that everything's okay and that I should try to make them feel more comfortable. Remember, any girl you talk to is only human and no one is perfect.
When you talk to girls, try as much as you can to be yourself. Take a deep breath and just let yourself relax. It's not necessarily unattractive when a guy is shy, but it's much more attractive when they're confident in themselves.
Don't let your last relationship ruin your future relationships. You're only 18. Most 18 year olds don't have great communication skills and aren't extremely comfortable when it comes to dating. Most people feel the way that you do at times.
Just list your positives and get back out and try again.
Darby(:
p.s. a lot of girls like 'nerdy' guys :p
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thank you:D its kind've really helped:P, i still find it hard to believe girls like "nerdy" guys lol
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