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Well, a little bit ago I just had a serious discussion with my boyfriend and we decided to take a break and just be friends. We had been dating for half a year and it just got to the point where [ he's very outgoing 24/7, I'm mostly serious and have fun when I feel it's truly a fun moment ] he'd always have a sort of complaint of me every month whether it be I didn't hold his hand he always had to do it, I never talk about my emotions and have deep emotional conversations, etc. He just seemed very sensitive, which I find nothing wrong with, I just like a LITTLE sensitivity in my guy but for the most part to be a typical guy. I know it doesn't sound too bad on here, but whenever you're in the moment, it's weird. Well it just started feeling to me like I was some big empty shell of a human to him and I felt bad about myself and everything. But I tried anyways more but then everything just began to feel forced like I'd think "am i holding his hand enough? am i being emotional enough?" which isn't really a relationship then. So it just seemed like he wasn't getting what he wanted out of the relationship and I wasn't fully getting what I wanted either. ( There's so much more to explain in the contrasts of our personalities and how we handle relationships, but it'd take forever ). It just felt more like a role switch; I the male, he the female and I don't like that.
So we talked and decided to just take a break and be friends for awhile. But there was just this weirdness in the air like obviously we didn't want to break up, but we did at the same time.
I guess what I'm asking is; does anyone think this was the right thing to do for us? It's just an awkward situation where you want to be together but it just doesn't seem like it's working, so it's sad, yet relieved. I've just never been in a situation like this; usually with a break up it's like, fight, stop talking, and either talk months later or never talk again. But we're going to hang out in a couple days like everything's cool.
this pretty much just happened to me. you've gotten through half a year with this guy so you should be his friend already. nothings awkward unless you make it, i promise. i think its a good thing for you two because it gives you some space and lets you guys figure out if you want to keep this relationship going or not. if you want to be together but its not working out because you two are so different, you're better off just staying friends, at least for awhile until you both can give to each others needs.
(Rating: 5) Thank you. Yeah, it was fine whenever we hung out, but now when we talk he keeps mentioning this girl who likes him alot, apparently. He never mentions if he likes her, but I think he's just doing it to see how I react, and if anything, it just makes me feel awkward, haha. Otherwise we talk just fine.