darthrachel's advice column

Hey, I've never had a boyfriend before (just to get that out there), but I HAVE been asked out by a lot of boys.
Here's the thing though--I have this really weird issue with getting mad at the boys who ask me out! It's usually if I'm talking to them, like, alone (usually over the internet) and they ask me out, I begin nicely and say "I'm sorry, that's really sweet, but I just don't really like you like that." and then it allll goes downhill from there. I usually start accusing them of playing ZAP (a game that forces people to ask certain people out) or I get creeped out and I refuse to speak to them, or I just plain get mad if they say one little thing wrong (ie. "I can't believe I was scared to do that", I would say "what, am I not good enough for you to ask out?").

It always makes me feel really really bad because I know boys are scared out of their minds to ask girls out, but I just can't help it! Please, can someone tell me how to NOT get mad? Or how to react at least? THANKS!!

I have that problem with getting mad at them for asking me out too. I recently found that for me, it is a problem with myself. When boys ask me out, I think, "Who could like ME? I'm ugly and stupid. They must've been dared to do it! They're just trying to embarrass me!", Etc, etc. Maybe you have my problem, maybe you don't. If you have my problem, all you have to do is think positively about yourself. Think "I'm beautiful, and they like me for me." Act more confident in yourself, and maybe this problem will go away. I really hoped I helped, and good luck. Remember, you are pretty, and boys like you for you.

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(Rating: 5) Thank you so much!
I was afraid everyone would be like "Oh your so horrible, give those boys a chance, you bitch, stop being so self-centered and get over yourself"
Thanks for not doing that :D Your advice really helped! I never thought of it like that!

Thank you sooo much!

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