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he is a freshman, im a sophomore. ever since the last time we saw eachother at our friends' house he has slowly been asking for sexual things from me. [these questions came gradually.] NOW he thinks were having sex. [i never said no, but i refuse to.] in the begining i said, i dont know about that i dont think thats gonna happen sorry [i would never want to have sex now anyways] and he would just say ugh grr fine. but now, he is completely convinced that we are going to do it. its starting to scare me. alright, you may think im crazy, and maybe i am. but the only reason i have been putting up with his shit is because i want to see him. i dont know why, but i just really want to see him. although, he treats me like a hoe and only talks to me when he feels like it. but im hoping he'll be himself when i see him. anyways, friday night i was over my friends house on her laptop in her kitchen while she was somehwere else. he IMed me and asked me to send a naked pic and i said im at my friends sorry [i wouldnt do it anyway] and then he said, wow. oh my god were havin sex just send it. [by the way we arent. he just thinks we are. im just too afraid to tell him no] and then he was just being really cruel to me and demanding. he said, ugh you wouldnt send it even if you werent at your friends house, your just like that. i want it damnit.
and then i started shaking and getting scared because i didnt know what to say and i didnt want him to get angry. then he said, ugh do you want my dick or not, hoe. and i said, yo dont call me a hoe.. and he said, then send a pic later. so then i just said i dont know..and he said, fine im fucking your vag then. and i said, do i have to..? and he said, im gonna fuck your vag now. i dont care ill bring a condom.
..thats so scary. he sounds like he wants to rape me. even at one point in our conversation a few days ago he said something like, "im gonna pin you against the wall and fuck you so hard your gonna cry" i told him that sounds like rape. because it does. i am kind of scared of him in a way..look at this conversation..[i changed the names]

matt: your my sex slave
me: whatt.
matt:
you mess up in sex ill slap you in the face wit my cock\
me:
what the fuck
are you being serious
matt:
only if you get naughty (:
me:
...
matt:
suck it till i jizz down your throat
me:
you dont really think of me as your sex slave do you
matt:
no
but im gonna slap you wit my cock
me:
why..?
matt:
cuz then youll suck it
me:
ill do whatever i want
matt:
youll do what i tell you to do
me:
someones being demanding
matt:
i dont care

i cant believe he thinks im his "sex slave" that hurts. and makes me feel like im a nobody and he is using me and getting everything out of it and probobly telling all of his friends and then what am i left with? nothing. whenever i think about the things he says to me, i get this weird stomache feeling, not a good one. and im really scared because yesterday he said to me, im going to their housr tonight. i want your ass, go tonight. and i said, should i ask if i can go..and he said, nah its ok. just go march 28. and i said okay, do you not want me to go tonight or something? and he said, i dont care, but im fucking your vag without a condom so..

first of all when did i ever agree to that. but i dont wanna say no because then he wont go to their house on march 28. he even said, i wont be busy if i get to fuck you. I DONT WANT TO! I WONT LET HIM. all i want to do is hookup. i dont want to have sex with him, never. ever. but i cant tell him that..and then when were at their house, after they all go to sleep, he wants to go on the other side of their basement and do it. but i feel like..hes gonna be really mad if i tell him while hes about to do it to me..hes gonna be so pissed. and i dont want him to slap me. i want to see him though..i dont know why. what is wrong with me. im starting to scare myself

i know you want to see him probably because you just want to hook-up. honestly, this kid sounds like the biggest asshole i've ever heard of. if you don't stand up for yourself and flat out tell him NO IM NOT HAVING SEX WITH YOU, things will just get worse. don't care what he thinks and don't care if he gets angry, if he does then he's an even bigger asshole then i thought...and besides if you don't flat out tell him "NO" and you end up having sex, its not rape no matter what he does to you because you didn't say "no" or "stop".....there are sooo many nice guys out there to hook up with that won't treat you as a "sex slave" or a hoe or any of that crap. get rid of him and find someone that treats you right.

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(Rating: 5) thank you.

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