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Hi all, I want to first say thankyou so much for reading this, and I'd just like to hear your opinions, personal experiences, etc. I know this may be a little awkward, so sorry! I'm usually not this open about my personal life but I need advice and words of other people.
Okay, I'm 16/f and my boyfriend is 15/m. We are in the same grade and have been happily dating for 7 months.
Well, recently my boyfriend has been getting a little frisky when we're together. However, I have yet to expose myself to him because of some feeling I've been having:
A.) I feel like that when I do expose myself to him (removing my bra, etc..), I'll have lost a part of my innocence. I know that when he starts getting frisky, I tell him to wait, and he really respects that and says okay (we're both "goodie goodies", if you will lol) and I am so beyond thankful for that. But obviously I know that he won't wait forever, but I know that feeling of my losing innocence will still linger. I don't know why I feel this way, I mean, I care for him beyond belief, I'd risk my life to save his. I'm not ashamed of my body, I guess maybe it's because I'm afraid of what he'll think? I'm not sure, have any girls ever had this feeling before?
B.) I'm not IN love with him, or I don't believe I am, but I do love him as a person and a boyfriend and I know he likes me so much (I asked him how much he liked me and he responded "to the moon and back" so I took that as a very good sign), however, we still haven't told each other that we have love for one another. I really want him to say it, because I can't just fully unclothe myself to someone who doesn't feel the way I feel about them. I'm a pretty moral person, and that'd be 100% going againt what I believe. So what should I do to try and provoke him to say it? Should I ask him? I don't want him to say it if he doesn't mean it, but I just want to know before I do anything with him. He's a really really good kid, as am I, but this is our first real relationship and I just would like the aspects of other people.
Thank you soooo much in advance! This truly means a lot to me, so thank you for taking the time to read it :) (link)
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i respect you for having the ability to say no. and it's good that he respects you. just wait till you are truly comfortable with it, so you won't regret it. and hopefully if he cares he will wait with you. if he decideds he can't anymore than that's his problem, not yours.
you can't really provoke him to say iloveyou. for all you know he wants to say it he just doesn't have the guts either. so if you believe you're ready to tell him you love him then say it first and see his reaction. if he can say it and it sounds meaningful then maybe things are ready to go to that next step.
it's all up to you, and when you feel you are comfortable with everything to happen. so if you have any regrets wait till you don't.
hope i helped.
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