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I am a 16 female. Just went through my first break up as of a few hours ago. We were going out for 7 months. He and I both decided to end it and stay friends. Although right now he is pretty pissed off. I am feeling 60% sad, 10% mad, 20% confused and the other 10% is lost somewhere in my brain. I've never experienced a break up before, so all I am asking is for some helpful advice or stories to help me feel better and move on.
Please and thank you!!!

Break ups with a partener will never be easy.. When me and my first proper girlfirend broke up after nearly 2 years we agreed to also stay friends. However, we kept arguing after we had broken up and disagreeing on silly things and our friendship was never the same..
The main advice i can give after a break up especially if you want to both be friends is to give eachother some space. After a mutual break up both of you will both naturally have some feelings for eachother and usually this will get in the way of the friendship. For me having space after a break up is one of the most important things, whether the space is for a few weeks, months etc.. You have to adjust to life without the person and be able to regain your independance.. Its a lot harder to do this when you and the person will still be so close..

Its not true that people who dated cant be friends.. But from my own experiance i found i cant be friends with the person without having space.. Thats my biggest piece of advice..

However you feel right now, just remember that the main thnig that will make you feel better is time..

Wish you the best of luck
Let me know how it all goes

Sanj

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(Rating: 5) thank you! It's kind of hard to get space from him though because we go to the same school and have a class together :/
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