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I'm dating someone now in my group of friends who I've dated before. My ex and I broke up about a month ago (he broke up with me.. I tried to fix it but he refused). So the ex and I aren't fighting, but we don't exactly get along. He used to be my best friends, and for some reason it's just now getting to me. I really just want to be friends again without the fear of any left over feelings, whether they be romantic or hostile. For example, he keeps staring at my new boyfriend and I (they're friends, maybe he's just trying to figure out if we're dating or not? idk). I don't really miss dating him, just keep having dreams about it. That, and I used to be the one he talkd to about pretty much everything. Now if I see he has a pessimistic song lyric, I either think it's my fault (I know it's not, I'm just parnoid), or that I should be able to ask him what's wrong.
Is this odd of me? That this stuff is bothering me so much? I mean, we were in love at one point, but I was over him before we even broke up. Now it's getting to me. So yeah, is this normal, and will the feeling let up? It's bugging me and getting in the way of my current relationship, because I sometimes almost feel guilty dating someone new, though I know we'll be very happy together.
I guess it's an issue that comes along with falling in love again? (link)
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I completely understand what you are talking about, it just recently happened to me. I don't think you should feel guilty at all. You just miss him, and I can't blame you I mean he was your best friend. So I think you should try to reconnect with him. Just enough so at least know whats going on with him and how he is. This way you won't always be wondering what to do and what hes doing. That way you'll also feel less guilty. And also try to keep it to simple talk. Try not to bring up your new boyfriend, because he's probably jealous and that could cause a fight. Just stay cool with him. And don't feel guilty, you can't help feel what you do.
Good luck.
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thanks for the empathy and advice. :]
i'm still a little nervous to talk to him, like he'll be ehhh with me? eh, i'll try with little jokes and small talk. ha.
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