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My younger sister (22) and I (24) have always been pretty different and disagreed on many things. She is an extremely devote catholic (she intends on becoming a nun) and I’m really, just not. For the past few years we always just agreed to disagree and to not talk too much about things we know will only upset us both and disrupt family gatherings. This really works as far as I’m concerned: I don’t need to argue with her and I’m okay with disagreeing with her.
The trouble is lately she’s gotten downright belligerent about it. She sent out an e-mail to a whole bunch of people that included a lot of ‘facts’ about intelligent design and young earth (basically, she said evolution was nonsense and that the world is only 6,000 years old ‘cause the bible says so). I sent her (just her, not her whole list) some links that dispute that and point out some of the problems with the evidence she said she had of the world only being that old. Some of the stuff she included was just untrue, and I thought she should know it. In the past she’s always been pretty reasonable and we could have these sorts of conversations, even though we both know we disagree!
In response, she e-mailed everyone in my family telling them that I am going to hell, that I’ve rejected God, and that they should force me to move in with other more faithful family members because I can’t take care of myself and that I might do drugs or other awful things if someone doesn't stop me... and I could kill her! Not only is that bullshit! That was really painful for my parents, and grandparents and aunts and uncles to read! Some of them are religious and some aren’t, but it was still frightening and hateful and upset them! My littlest sister was in tears about it and asking everyone why she hates me.
I’m really livid! I don’t even know what to do with this much anger. I haven’t responded to her, although apparently my mom had a talk with her and told her that that was not cool, but I’m kind of at the point where I never want to speak to her ever again! I just think she’s a nasty, stupid, little monster for doing that.
Does anyone have any advice on what I can do about this and how to approach it? I just want things to be okay for my family. I don’t need us to all agree, I just need a bit of respect. Obviously I’m never going to try and talk sense to my sister again, but what do I do now? (link)
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I think the best way to handle this is for you to calm down and basically turn your sisters belief back on her. Beat her at her own game so to speak.
Remember if she wants to be a nun then she must believe what the Bible says. To start with the Bible says "Judge not lest ye be judged". This means the only one that can judge your actions is God (not her). Keep in mind these are HER beliefs from her own Bible.
Also don't return her hatred and meanness WITH hatred and meanness. Return your rebutle with love. This will show all onlookers who has the "Godly" attitude and who does not.
You also may want to read up on the Roman Catholic church. The Catholic church has changed original Christianity so much that I doubt Jesus would recognize it! Google "the problem with Catholisism".....if you confront her I'm sure it will increase her anger, but again the Bible says "Prove all things"
Most people go through spiritual phases in thier life. Remind her of the parable of the prodigle son. If she doesn't remember it then she should read it. For her to be truely Godly is for her to show you kindness and consideration and hope for your return to faith. As the old saying goes, "You atract more flies with honey than with vinegar" True Christians follow the ways of Jesus. I suggest she start.
GL TheMaster
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I know this is pretty good advice, but I really don't want to beat her at the 'Bible Game'. I know taking quotes from the bible can be used to support all sorts of warped arguments, hers AND mine. And it's really not honest debate. Thanks though, I agree with you about needing to find a way to respond with love, as hard as that is.
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