We're all in our early twenties. This is kind of a weird question...
My boyfriend has a few close friends (male), and they all have this really rapid-fire way of talking where there's never a break in conversation. They have all these inside jokes and stories they laugh about with each other constantly, and when I hang out with them, I just clam up because some of the stuff they talk about would never even cross my mind.
I'm a very introverted person. My boyfriend sees a side of me no one else does, and he knows this. He also knows that his friends make me uncomfortable, but he's expressed concern that he feels like they're ignoring me and I'm not even trying to contribute to the conversation. It upsets him.
Problem is, I don't know how to talk with them. It's like they have their own language - I've talked to him about all of this. I'm including his brother in this group, and his brother's not my biggest fan, to say the least. Needless to say, I get quiet around people I know don't like me.
So, I don't fit in. I can't converse with them. How do I get better at this?
Alright, ask him when you are all hanging out to bring up a couple of subjects that you could easily talk about. Also, ask him if everyonce in a while you could just hang out with one or two of his friends rather then all so you can get to know them better and are able to hang out. Also, you could let him go hang out wiht the guys and you could have a girls night. If your b/f says well what do I say if they ask why your not there, just tell him to say that your having a girls night, and end at that. Good Luck!
Yes I do understand that..in that case I would do what I said above which is tell him to brin up certain subjects that are easy for you to join in. Good Luck!
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I've known these guys for three years and it doesn't help. I do let him go hang out with the guys; we're not constantly attached at the hip. He would just be happier if we could all hang out, rather than it being him and them, or me and him, or me and them. Y'know?
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