Hi! I'm a 14 year old freshman. I like to read books, hang out with my friends and i also love to cook! I love to also decorate things!!!! I love music and movies too! Some of my favoriet bands are Linkin Park, One Republic, Nickel Back, and 3 Doors Down. I really hpe everyone likes my advice!
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Member Since: February 5, 2009
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Last Update: March 13, 2009
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I have known "Ashley" as an acquaintance for a couple of years. Last semester, we had an art class together, and we gossiped and talked a lot because we didn't know anyone else. I was never really close to her at all. However, at the beginning of the semester, I was very kind to her and invited her to hang out once in a while. I don't know how it happened, but now she won't leave me alone!
For instance, I invited her to my friend's swim meet, and she keeps calling it 'our thing' and she acts as if it had always been our thing (even though i used to go alone). She's constantly inviting herself to places with me. Like, today I had a movie date with my best guy friends, and she tagged along without bothering to ask any of us. I don't mind, but sometimes I'd like to bond with my best friends and when she feels left out, she mopes and tries to drag me around and play the pity card when she shouldn't have invited herself in the first place. My guy friends are getting annoyed with her too, because she's constantly trying to be their friend and tries too hard. One of them said, "It's actually creepy how much she tries/wants to be like you." She also has crazy mood swings and when she feels left out, she thinks everyone's out to get her and that everyone's being bitchy towards her (when in actuality it's more of a "don't tell everyone someone's private business" sort of thing)
I'm getting SO annoyed, but i don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt her feelings, but she is not giving me enough space and I feel suffocated, and I'd hardly consider her a close friend. (link)
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This is going to be hard but when your going to do something with a friend and you don't want her to come you have to just tell her no. You have to let your YES mean YES and your NO mean NO. So you need to tell her that you just wanted to hang out with your guy friends, mean it. If she thinks your beng mean, just tell her in a polite but firm manor 'Just because i want time alone with my other friends doesnt make me mean.' If she doesn't want to be your friend then that might be a good thing for you. Hopefully she'll get the message and stop following you around. When she invites herself places just tell her agian that this was planned for you and (your friends name) only. I hope this helps :^)
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Thank you very much. I definitely am trying to work on my assertiveness.
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