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i've liked this guy for a month or so now. we're in the exact same circle of friends and we talk primarily in school (in fact, we hardly ever talk on instant messenger or via facebook / myspace). i have his number and we call and text each other, usually for school purposes. i help him out a lot with school to be a good friend, and he trusts me. we also hang out a lot but in group settings.

however, just recently, i noticed that he would always hang around this girl, so i got up enough courage to ask him about their friendship and he admitted that he's liked her for a long time but isn't sure about the other way around.

well, lucky me, right? great friends, lots of trust, single, hang out outside of school... what could be wrong? it turns out, they're attached at the hip. they are ALL OVER each other, and she really infuriates me because she's had boyfriends over these last few months yet he STILL likes her after everything. she posts facebook albums of them hanging out and makes them her profile pictures and hugs him and holds hands with him and i sit here wondering... why is she doing this? she doesn't even like him beyond friends! she's leading him on -- and it's obvious. he really likes her though, and nothing will stop him. he's liked her for many, many months.

we've only talked about her a couple times but he doesn't talk to me about it really openly. i've worked really hard to make our friendship absolutely perfect, and we're closer than ever now. i don't want to ruin that by breaking the ice and telling him i like him, ESPECIALLY since i know for a fact that he likes that other girl.

in addition, i'm a really jealous person. i suddenly feel like i hate her more than anyone on the planet. it's so weird though because i honestly think i'm prettier than her, i have a better body, and i'm smarter than her. i'm only jealous that he likes her. he's really innocent and isn't a hot shot pimp kind of guy, and she's a really sweet innocent angel kind of girl (NOT a slut by any stretch of imagination despite the fact that she's had several boyfriends whereas i haven't). and i think those are the types of girls he likes.

what is your opinion? also, i'm not even sure if i want to date him necessarily. i just want to get to know him better and be like. friends with benefits sorta. no like serious relationship stuff. so there's no point in me admitting that i like him. that'll just raise his ego even higher than it already is.

I agree, there is no need for you to admit your feelings to him if he's telling you he likes another girl. There is a good song that is very similar to your situation called, "Saved the Best For Last," by Vanessa Williams.
it sounds to me as if this boy is slightly inexperienced with women, and one of the reasons he is so attracted to her is because she has made it clear she likes him. Because he is a little shy and nervous about girls, he went for a girl who can come right out and tell him how she feels. It probably makes him feel good to read about himself on her myspace, etc.
Even you seem a little confused about what you are looking for with him. Could it be that the two of you have been so close, that now you are rethinking things because he is interested in someone else? Sometimes, we are so used to getting attention from a guy, we get jealous when he turns his attention somewhere else. I think you should be absolutely sure about what you want before you tell him you are into him, because once you do, you may change your friendship.
You seem like the type of girl who isn't into all of the cutesy wutesy dating rituals. You are into good conversation, respect, and friendship. I can tell you are a mature person because you didn't hit below the belt, you made sure to say this girl was not a slut. Take her out of the picture, and try to figure what you and this guy have that is important to you and roll with it.

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