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When you said to me he uses a messenger cuz he likes me Its actually only because we barely talk to each other at lunch (unless he's begging me for money) and I have no classes with him. And he uses my friend as a messenger because he has last period with her and she's a close friend. But then again you could be right because he never talks to me when my table at lunch is full or has sertain few of my friends sitting down at the time. Oh and I'm good at speaking in riddles so I could probably trick him into admitting he likes me or not. Is that wrong to do?

See, this is the thing; we girls don't think that guys are sensitive, or nervous, but the truth is they are just like us. Everything we feel, they feel, too. They are just a lot better at hiding it. You know how you like a guy and then when you talk to his friends you keep talking about the person you like, asking them questions, and in general, coming across like the president of a fan club? You have to find out from the messenger if that is what is going on, or if she is the one always bringing you up.
There are two ways to go about it. The more mature way would be to talk to him directly. No, it's not wrong to trick him into admitting it, but I really don't think you would be tricking
him. If he admits he likes you, he wanted to all along.
The second way is to find out if the messenger is always bringing you up, or if it is him. If he's the one bringing you up, your golden. If she is always bringing you up, you have to tell her to stop, so you can find out if he will initiate the conversation about you.
Messengers can be really tricky; one because you never know exactly what was said, or how it was said. You know, like what their face looked like when they said it, and all the little details that add up. Second, sometimes messengers can get so caught up in the thing, they actually start liking the person! You know, they keep hearing you say how great the guy is, then they talk to him so much, they get to know them and like them. So, I wouldn't let the messenger thing go on for any longer than it has to for you to get a good read on the situation.




I hope you see this because there is no other way for me to get you the message. If he is all you think about, you should just go for it! You have to know if he was serious when he said he would definately ask you out if he wasn't taken, or if he was just being nice. It sounds as if you are a tomboy, but just really starting to notice guys in a different way besides joking with them and beating them up. Sometimes, it can be really hard to figure out how to act because you think you have to change your whole personality. the truth is, you don't. Sometimes guys like you, and sometimes they don't. If you keep track of the type of girl he is interested in, you can take some style tips from them, but I wouldn't try to change your whole personality around.

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I rarely talk about him and how great he is because most people actually don't like him so I'm nice to him and then my friend and I ended up telling him I liked him about a month ago 2 weeks before Christmas which is where he said sorry I'm taken but if I wasn't I would definetly ask you out
But then this month a week ago I heard he wants to ask someone else out and then I heard it was my friend who doesn't like him at all. (Oh and by the way my friend hasn't been giving me any messages latley from him.) And now all I can do is think should I get him to know me when his friends aren't around or should I wait for him to say something to me even if he never will. And one more thing should I keep tabs on who he likes to see what I can do to impress him or just be a little less insane. (because normally guys don't like me because I'm way to hyper)
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