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I like this kid in my school (I'm in 8th grade by the way so that may help) and im not so sure he cares much. He knows I like him and ive given him a few small presents for the sake of giving a present and he really liked I. So I don't know if he liked it because I gave it to him or because he said it looked cool.
Also I'm kinda hyper in school and really tomboyish and I like most guy things(e.g. Videogames shooting movies and hate the color pink) he knows I'm like that. But my real problem is he likes another person but just found out she doesn't like him. How do I ask him out without sounding desperate?

I think your major problem here is you have kind of entered the friendship zone with this guy, so number one thing you want to do is avoid this. You say that he likes another girl, so the absolute worst thing you could do is become his shoulder to cry on about that situation. You don't want to find yourself in the uncomfortable situation of giving a guy you like advice about another girl. This doesn't mean you can't ask him out, although your timing might be a little off if he likes another girl right now. Do you gys have any mutual friends? If you do, you should try to arrainge a group kind of thing, like you all go out to the movies, but of course it has to be couples. Another good way to get things going is to ask him to hang out right after school, or sometime during the day. Try to keep things light like that for a while.





I'm not sure if you will notice this part of my advice, because you asked me a question in the feedback, but there is no other way for me to answer it unless you ask me directly (I'm new at this, so I don't know exactly how it works).

I think you should tell him that you would like for the two of you to start talking, instead of using the messenger. I actually think if you guys have a conversation he will probably be the one to ask you out! The fact that he uses a messenger means that he is nervous to talk to you, which usually means he likes you. Good luck, let me know how it goes.

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But I found out the girl he likes doesn't like him and if I said he knows I like him then I'll say this
Some days he'll use my friend as a messenger and tell her how sorry he is for liking other people and not me
So do you think I should try to get him to know the less crazy side of me and know who I am instead of hearing about the other crushes (whichcannotys me like crazy by the way) and how much he likes them
Or should I flat out ask him out
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