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So a couple months ago I worked with a male employe at my job, at a very big corrporation food place, and another female. All that day he kept making very lewd ramarks about me and the other girl, we have to initial a cleaning list so he was taking each letters and making disgusting and very sexual sentences with our names. Then he kept mentioning how he really wanted to Fu** one of our female employes. Then when his shift was over he told me and the other girl that we should all hook up to have hot sex. He gave us his number and watched us for half an hour outside the store. I let it go, not happily but I thought at that time he was 16. Turns out he's 28. So the next day I worked alone with him and he insulted my religon and told a customer that my mom was a whore and he should go fu** her. In front of the mans six year old and wife. A day after I went and talked to my boss and it turns out this was his third sexual harrasment thing. So my boss grabbed the guy and had a half hour chat. Then he told me I'd never have to work with him again, and he used my name when talking to the kid and everything. However he screwed up and placed me and the guy to work together all night. So now the guy works with minors younger then me and now I'm close to b fired because I supposivly have issues with my manager who is OCD about everything and hates me since middle school. I really hate my job but If I leave the guy gets a clean slate according to my second manager. What should I do? The guys insaine and i don't want him getting away with more of this.

Sorry it was so long:()

First of all, this guy has no business working with young kids, and you don't have to, but if you made a complaint it would probably save some poor young girl from being taken advantage of. What this guy is doing is sexual harrassment. It is called "hostile environment," because he is creating an environment uncomfortable to work in. You have to back yourself up in writing. The first step is to write a letter, or even an email to your supervisor listing the things this guy has done. By the way, insulting your religion is just as hostile. Save this letter. It will serve two purposes. First, it will protect you, because if your supervisor decides to take you off the schedule, you have proof that you complained about this and then got taken off the schedule. I suppose you could say you already told your supervisor, but he can just deny it because there is no proof. Ultimately, this jerk should lose his job, but at the very least your supervisor is on notice that the pervert shouldn't be put on the schedule with youngsters. If the pervert doesn't get fired and continues to behave in this way you will have to go higher up than your supervisor, who will probably lose his job for not handling the situation. Companies take this sort of thing very seriously because if you continue to be harrassed, even one single more time, you could sue them, and they don't want that. The law is that one warning is enough, and the company is vicariously responsable, which means thay have to pay out a lot of money. Your supervisor might not know the law, but that is not an excuse. If you give him notice in writing about what is going on, he will take it alot more seriously. If you are under 18 you might want to let a parent know what you are planning to do, because if it happens to go to the authorities it is best to have a grown up backing you.

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