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im so f*kin p!ssed with my mate right now... a couple of months ago he got back in contact with some girl from school (blah blah they had sex and wernt even going out with eachother and they wernt even going out and he ballsed it up basically) ANYWAY! last night he got all depressed about her not loving him back and other things besides (kus he says he "loves" her) and i got one of my freinds in a joint convo between me and him she helped as much as she could have helped over msn. and he started blaming shit on me! saying stuff like "Well if fatass here would go party with me i might actualyl meet more people" i got erally annoyed with that but i didnt say anything too bad just you freekin what mate you better shut up, what i really wanted to say to him was screw you its not my fault your a pathetic lowbie who cant find freinds by himself. (i should probably add that iv told him many times i DO NOT like parties at all.. im allways stuck in the back with no one to talk to) i would rather have quiet company with close freinds and he knows that, i know he knows that because i told him. he's starting to get on my rag with his problems now because all he thinks about is himself because of it, he sits indoors all day getting bored and trying to think of things to do but never actually getting off his arse TO DO ANYTHING god it annoys me... (everything iv said about him iv allready said to him niceley before iv tried to reason and help him but he doesnt seem to give an arse or care he just bitches on endlessly) GGARRGH....
what i wanted to ask you loveley people is should i just start getting more an more annoyed with his thoughtless bitching and aggravating comments about how "LAZY" >>I

There may be some good qualities about your friend, but he's got a real problem with blame. It is because this girl doesn't love him back that he's miserable, it's because of you he's bored, does he still dwell on mistakes his parents made whan he was a kid? He is kind of pathetic, right now, but in his defense, a broken heart really, really sucks. I have had friends in long term relationships who handled a breakup better. It sounds as if he might just want to be unhappy for the time being. It must be hugely draining to try to get a smile out of someone for hours only to have them blame you for their bad luck, which is why most people run for the hills in these situations. The best thing you can do is not enable his seclusion. If he wants to hang around the house and cry, fine, but you go out and continue on with your life. Hopefully he will catch up.

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(Rating: 5) thanks alot that was pretty much what was on my mind all of today, he called in sick to work today so ill go see him and try and get myself back to how i used to feel when i was with him. and not get pissy at the slightest thing. thanks alot for your answer i really appreciate it alot
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