Well, I'm on my way to become a mental health counselor. I like to help people, and I think almost everyone deserves a second chance at happiness. I've been through alot of things in life, and I don't regret it. It's given me experience to help others. I don't have a particular religion, because I believe I do know the difference between right and wrong, and how to lead a good life whilst committing good deeds. Don't be shy to ask me a question :)
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well to start out my mom is an alcoholic...she benge drinks..meaning she'll go on a month spurt of where all she does is lay in bed and drink. this has hasppened for my whole life..i can't remember a time when it wasnt going on. She is also bipolar..drinking is a symptom of this disease but they diagnosed her seperatly. well my whole also she has kind of isolated me from the world..wanting me to spend all my time with her. I didnt all the time but she made me spend mosto f my childhood with her. i am now 16. she still does this. we have been fighting so hard and i cant even tell her when i have a bf. no matter anyway if i did because she wouldnt let me see him. I have no life partly because of her. We have sat down and had numerous talks and deicusions but ir always goes back to normal. i told her that whe needs to get friends but all she says is that i am her everything and thats how she wants it. I DONT want to be all she has for many reasons. 1. im going to leave and move FAR away...so where is that ging to leave her? and 2.i need a life. I stay in my room most of the time because all she does is yell and scream and call me names...yet she wants me to spend time with her nearly 24/7. I awm so low all the time because of everytning she says to me. I ahve told her awnd talked to her about that 2. she apologizes and its ok for a few days and then it goes right back to it. She takes away all my things whenever i dont do something she asks...or even if i bring home nething lower than a b+ (yes that means ANYTHING lower) im not exagerating one bit. this is what i live with everyday and im so tired of it. i want a normal life. my point is Talking does nothing we have sat down and tried...its like it goes in one ear and out the other with her. i need a way out but i dont know what to do (link)
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Lmao, I'm posting this as an answer to whoever commented on my post to this question. This is not directed to the daughter.
First of all, do you deny any of the above mentioned things your daughter has said about you? Do you realize what kind of life you're leading her through? She's a teenager, she's just a kid. She's seeing her mother binge drink and in all types of situations that are unneccessary to be put through at that age. By the sounds of it, she's depressed. Do you think this just RANDOMLY happened? Don't be so ignorant. Just because you're older doesn't mean you know everything in life. Alas, I don't know what your family has been through, but that has no reference to your daughter's well-being. Does she look/sound happy? Do you ever really look her in the eyes and ask if SHE'S happy instead of only thinking about yourself?
Do you even let her have friends over or let her go out? Do you realize what you're doing is going to have a permanent affect on this girl? And no, I'm sorry, I'm no doctor. But I am getting my masters in mental health counseling, and hopefully a PhD pretty soon. So I think I know a thing or two :)
Stop drinking. Stop choking her. Stop haranguing her for getting a lower grade than a B+ (working with her helps best). Stop and just listen to her words. You obviously don't know what's best for her by the sounds of it.
There's a reason she wants to get away as soon as she can. And if you are what she says you are, then it'll be healthier for her. Do what's best for your daughter. Jesus.
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And you are what kind of doctor? You should be more careful of who you give advice to and in what situation. How dare you tell my daughter to get out as soon as she can. You have no idea who this family is and what we are dealing with. Advice like yours could do much more damage. You are an idiot.
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