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ok so... i'm not like a perfect kid or anything but I'm not a bad one either. I'm 18 years old and I don't drink, do drugs, have sex, nothing. I never have and I don't plan on it. My 15 year old sister on the other hand has been mixed up in just about everything. She even got a tattoo and tried hiding it forever. My mom used to get on her so hard when she knew she was getting high and stuff. It took a huge turn at some point and I just don't know where. She keeps everything about my sister from my dad and it makes me so frustrated. My sister has this 19 year old boyfriend we'll call Dustin. Dustin in 19 years old and a loser. He doesn't have a job or anything. My sister would say she was staying and then go to his house instead.. at first my mom cared and then she just like stopped. she would tell me and my dad she was at her friends when I knew the truth... and thennnn she had the audacity to let him stay here at our house. Well... about 2 weeks later guess who's pregnant.. yep.. my sister. They think they're ready to "have a family".. how can they have a family when neither one has a job or any source of support besides my parents. Dustin is in and out of jail and it disgusts me. My dad goes to sleep every night at about 8:30 and around 945 or so my mom goes to get her from Dustins and guess who has been coming with her every single night?! I know it shouldn't be my problem but it is. I don't feel comfortable in my own house an I get so stressed from having to keep it from my dad. Whenever I try to tell my mom how I feel it turns into how "I think i'm so perfect and how I build off of her screw ups" My mom always makes it sound like i'm a bad kid and i'm tired of it. I am such a good kid compared to her.. and not because I want to be better than her, it's because I respect myself...... please help me, I would appreicate it so much .
Isn't it messed up that the bad kid gets more attention than the one who is doing the right thing. First of all, know that your sister is in a whole lot of trouble right now. You think she's getting everything she wants, but I promise you, reality is going to come crashing down on her for the rest of her life. You truly should feel sorry for her, because she is going to be stuck with this loser for the rest of her life and she's going to have the responsability of a baby, to boot. Your mother's head is spinning right now. She knows what your sister is facing, even if your sister thinks this is all fun and games. I don't know why she is allowing this guy to spend the night in her home with her 15 year old daughter, or more importantly, risking family harmony by lying to your dad, but it seems as if your mother needs a reality check. You should talk to your mother and tell her that you don't feel comfortable sleeping while some near stranger who has been in jail is wandering around the house. I have a feeling that she is letting Dustin stay over because if she doesn't your sister will stay over there, and your mother is worried. She can't think straight because she is allowing a fifteen year old to call the shots. you could even research places that your sister could go. Some places have himes for unwed mothers that will teach them parenting skills, set them up in apartments, etc. Maybe your mother is going to have to let your sister go. I really feel for you, because you are stuck in a bad situation that you didn't cause, and you don't have any control. The only thing you can control is your own actions, and if it makes you feel any better, soon you will be off beginning your life, and your sister will be facing a lot of struggle. I know right now she is thinking about her wonderful family she is starting, but I promise you, her wake up call will come soon. In the meantime, her unborn baby is another totally innocent person who has less control than you do. Hopefully, your mother is trying to placate your sister so that she can get her the prenatal care she needs. Whenever you start feeling too sorry for yourself, think about that baby who didn't ask for any of this, yet is going to be born to a teenage girl who has nothing, and a father who is in and out of jail, and will probably continue the pattern. Think about how you are going to be the auntie who might be the only one responsable enough to teach this kid about life.
(Rating: 5) thank you so much. I truly appreciate it. It's just so tough. My mom pretty much told me her and my dad are probably getting a divorce and he's moving out...and I'll be out of here soon for college, so I just hopes she gets what she wanted... she'll have my sister and dustin, along with a new baby... whew.. thank you again.