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i don't know why but i don't really have any guy friends. i'm 17 (female) and guys barely talk to me. when they do i'm not really shy or anything but the guys i hang around just never have anything to talk about so our conversations are brief. i dont really have a crush on anyone but i do find some guys at my school attractive/i would hook up with them but i don't know how that would ever happen. i dont feel like any guy would ever want to hook up with me... but i don't know why. i'm pretty "normal," not ugly or anything, in shape, good sense of humor, and i have a pretty wide circle of friends. i'm nice to everyone and i don't talk badly of anyone... im not clingy to guys either. i really need help, im woried about even getting a prom date!

I am going to only focus on the guys you think are attractive. Pay attention to them, watch how they interact with other people. Are they funny and loud, or serious and quiet. Once you start actually watching (without coming across as a stalker) you will be suprised at how much you will learn about them. Don't bother with the ones that you ultimately find obnoxious, but there has got to be one guy out of them that you become even more interested in once you pay attention. Then-and here's the hard part-you are going to have to put yourself out there. Guys are just as nervous as girls when it comes to asking people out, and the fact that you aren't clingy gives them nothing to go on. You don't have to be clingy or even flirtacious, you just have to show a little interest. Pick the guy that you like and show him a little interest to give him something to go on. I bet he will be hugely flattered, especially if you aren't the kind of girl who normally flirts.

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