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Hey doll I get it... it's LOVE right?
You can't get over it because it's not just someone you dated, it's someone you let into your life. Now... there is a void in your life. Your best friend is gone. There is no one to call on Christmas, no one to take with you to a wedding, and oh God don't get me started on Valentine's Day. You have been dealing with the void, but from time to time, something reminds you of him and it's like reopening the wound a little bit.
When you think about him, you seem to remember all these good things about him, maybe even some that never happened. (I often remember slow dancing with my ex in a jazz club, and I KNOW that's never occured.)
It feels like... well... like someone died, and there is a pain in heartbreak that is actual physical pain, and the anxiety is almost too much to bear.
Sound familliar?
That's heartache, and dont let anyone tell you it gets easier when it happens. But it is a good thing. For one, you have proven to yourself that you are a good person, you can care about someone more than yourself. Another is that you can learn from this, you know more about the habits of jerks than you did before. You know what to look for in the next guy... and trust me... if you got HIM... you can get another.
It may not seem like it now, but you are better off, on your own, no one to have to check in with or anything. Hell you can go to a movie tonight if you wanted, or chat up that nice guy in line at the coffee shop and not feel guilty.
Give it another 7 months... then send him a thank you card for letting you free.
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