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15f.

i know you guys are probably sick of all the damn questions about friends and friendship issues, but i have a simple question: do i have a right to be upset considering the following:

i used to be really good friends with this girl, but then she got a boyfriend and EVERYTHING changed.

the first time she hurt me was when she told me she went to third base with her boyfriend FOURTH months after. and i know you're like, "um well that's her personal business with her boyfriend. no reason to be jealous, girl." BUT she told two other friends who aren't as close with her as i am BEFORE ME. she has never done that to me before. she used to tell me everything. i thought i would have been the first to know...

the second time she hurt me was today. when her boyfriend told me that one of our really good friends got practically raped. SIX MONTHS AGO. she does not know that i know, but those same two girls even knew before i did. this really got me upset.

do i or do i not have a right to be upset with her?

In my opinion I'd chill a little. I mean I'd be a little annoyed but dont blow it out of proportion

Some friends go to different people for different things. Like she probarbly told the other girls because she actually MIGHT be closer to them when she needs to confide in someone, or if they are pretty good adivce givers.

Also, if one of your good friends got raped - you should be more angry with her for not telling you than your actual best friend. Why should she tell you? Being raped is something confidential..maybe your best friend didn't want to embarass your good friend like that.

Your a little senstive howver I would be angry like you. Just let that go a little. Your best friend has other friends, and talks to them for different things, so let that go. SHe doesn't have to be tied all the way down to you. Not that im implyin that you want her to be.

I guess what im sayin is dont get angry! She was proabrbly doing it unintentional

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(Rating: 4) you don't understand. she doesn't talk to them for different things -- she updates me on her day-to-day things but won't tell me the most important things, yet she tells them. i'm really mad at her and i'm not being overly sensitive. you'd be mad at the three of them, too. i shouldn't take it out on you though.. it's not your fault. thanks for your advice.
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