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my boyfriend is 20. i am 19. he is coming down for thanksgiving. we have been together for almost only 5 months. i dont think we are spending thanksgiving together. he at his family dinner. i at my family dinner.
my question being, he would love to see me all dressed up. (heels, hair done, dress) (like prom) obviously we are not in high school, so no prom dances. :) but i would like to do this for him. but i want it to be a special occasion so it doesnt seem corny!!!
any ideas of anything would help so much. im sorry if my question is awkard because im a bit confused on what im asking :) but advice would be greatly appreciated! thanks!!! (link)
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You have made me smile and warmed me on a cold night, thank you. I know what your looking for and understand it. My daughter got married recently and they wanted simple and casual dress. I told them that their wedding was not for them, no matter what they think. People have so little reason to get dressed up these days and the inner self's need to do it is so strong. Everybody looks so good, so self assured and I gotta say it again, so damn good when they dress to impress and why shouldn't we have that?
I tell you what, never be afraid to show that, never be afraid to shine like the diamond you are. You talk to your boy friend and tell him that you realize that Thanks Giving is about family, but it is also about giving thanks and you wish to see him for just a kiss that night so you can remind him how thankful you are that you know him. Tell him it can be just a minute where ever he wants, on his doorstep if necessary. Then you show up dressed for him in all your beauty and shine, you never need an excuse to shine dear spirit and you should always shine bright.
Say nothing when you see and approach him, go straight for a kiss then turn around to leave, if he doesn't think of something for the two of you to do, this one may be too stupid for you. Trust me, you'll knock him for a loop. He'll know after this that he has something special with in his grasp.
You should never fear corny, or awkward, because another word for them is special and that is what it will make him feel. It is only when we are most vulnerable that true love reveals itself.
I expect to hear from you after Thanks Giving dear lady.
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thank you. it was absolutly perfect. he had dinner with his family. i with mine. i saw him late at night at his sisters. i gave him tickets to a basketball game and two other little gifts and dressed up. he appreciated it so much! :) thank you for all the help offered!!!
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