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i'm so sorry this is long but i would really appreciate if you could help me!

you have great advice, i love it! and i've seen that you have dealt with the whole friends with benefits thing so i thought maybe you could help me out :) im 18 years old. im still a virgin and have never had an actual boyfriend. people tell me im gorgeous, im outgoing, funny and sweet. but i don't see it, i don't see why guys go for me when there are so many other girls that are better than me. well i've only made out with two guys, kissed like 5 and that was like three years ago and they all meant nothing! i feel like i'm scared to do anything, even kiss! i can't overcome this. i have a best friend of about four years, he does mean SO much to me and i've always liked him and i dont think that will ever change. we use to just be friends but lately like within the past six months he has been talking about sexual things. i am really attracted to him, when i'm with him he turns me on like no other boy. i feel bad though because when we text and talk about things like this i'm like, i want you. and stuff like that because, i really do but when i'm actually with him and he tries to do stuff with me i chicken out and i feel horrible. he's tried to kiss me, i act like i didn't know. he's felt me up like my boobs, i don't care he's been down my pants but HASNT gotten to the point of actually like feeling my vagina or anything. i feel like such a tease, i don't want to be though. i'm comfortable with him but i don't know what it is. i feel like if he fingers me or something he will be like "oh, your vagina was smelly, or weird shaped" something stupid like that. im just so self conscious. and one night i was at his house and we were in the basement by ourself and i was like look how cute my underwear are! and he was like let me see so i unbuttoned my pants and of course he put his hand down my pants. and he was like you should strip for me ;) well he's seen me in my bra but he hasn't seen me with my pants off! i was like no, i'm not! and we were texting and i wanted him to watch this movie with me and he was like i hate that movie and i was like come on watch it with me and he was like you will probably be distracted anyways. i think he meant because he will be trying to do stuff with me? i'm not quite sure and me being the dork i am said, bet you i wont and he was just like ok. and i was like fuck you, for not liking my movie haha and he was like yeah thats what you really want to do don't you, you want to fuck me just say it dont lie. and i was like i don't lie. and he was like thats good. i just don't know what to do im SO LOST! i think im so scared because i really like this guy and all the others meant nothing to me so i didnt care what they thought. i'm definately not having sex with him, i'm not ready for that and he knows that now but i would like to experiment doing other things! any advice would be greatly appreciated thank you so much.

Hi! Thank you for writing in my inbox. :]

Well, this is how my friends with benefits thing started. Although, ive known him for about 11 years or so. It was the same way, i had this crush on him, and then it became more. We started getting closer and i loved it.

I am not going to say friends with benefits is bad, i would be contridicting myself. I honestly dont see a problem with it. Although, you may get hurt. You just have to keep your guard up.

Another thing, i am sure you are a very pretty girl. I also think you should work on your self esteem a bit. Try different kinds of makeup, tell yourself you look cute, ect. It really helps because you cant go through life being scared of kissing.

You dont want to have sex with him, but you want to turn him on? Guys dont really like that. And in your situation, you might turn him on and you said you dont want to have sex, and you dont give hj or bj...he would basically be screwed and probably get upset. Thats just how guys work, yeah they liked being teased for a little, but then that just builds up and then they want something, ya know?

I would try things with him, only if you are 100% sure of it. Try giving him a blow job or a hand job. It'll give you practice and it will overcome you're fear of it.

To turn him on, you can do TONS of things. Really, guys will get turned on by almost ANYTHING. You can touch by the inside of his leg, you can kiss his neck, bite his lip gently, bite his ear, blow in his ear (it'll give him chills), or just make out with him. All of them, or even one should do the trick.

So, by typing all of this i am just saying BE CAREFUL. And you said you do not want to have sex, so if you truly dont, DO NOT let him pressure you. If i were you i would try other things so you get a feel for them. Start with kissing, and then go on.

Also, about your vagina smelling...I highly doubt it does smell. Just make sure you shave nicely and wash it well. All girls are afraid of this happening when they first become sexually active. I know i was, i was horrified...i kept thinking what if i smell? what if im not good? what if...and it kept going through my head.

You will get over that fear as well, as long as you wash good you will be fine! :] And i am almost positive he wont think you are shaped weird :p


I hoped i helped, and i am sorry if it is very long.

And seriously, if you need anymore advice, or if you want me to break it down more just email me, or instant messsage me. The info is on my column :]


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