Kendra is a young woman working as a professional in Toronto. She's a cat lover, a bookworm and has always had a deeply rooted interest in people, love and what happens when the former attempts the later.
She's been in three long term relationships, lost her mother when she was 16 and has lived through her father's alcoholism and drug abuse. She's a college graduate in journalism and art, has a quirky personality and has acquired some realistic yet romantic beliefs about love and relationships.
She lives with her boyfriend. Life may not have always been good, but it is good now.
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Well, I'm 14, and recently, I discussed with my dad if I could have a boyfriend, and he said he guessed so. I'm glad I can finally go out and all, it's just that only one person has asked me out this year, and I had to turn them down... so... yeah... it's not like I'm ugly or annoying, I'm not actually sure why a lot of people don't ask me out. Maybe I'm not flirty enough? I dunno. Can I have some tips on how to flirt with boys? I'm pretty quiet, but I'm outgoing if I get to know someone a little... does that make sense? Ok, well let's just leave it at I'm pretty quiet. And I'm more for boys asking me out, not the other way around... so... yeah...again. Anyone? (link)
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You sound like a nice young girl. I was very much like you when I was 14. I didn't get asked out until I was 16 and by then I was, well, desperate and I said yes just to have a boyfriend. Well, long story short, he was awful and I wish I had never dated him.
What's my point in all this? Dating happens when it happens. If you put too much importance on getting a boyfriend you might wind up dating a creep like I did. Don't tie up your self-esteem in this. It'll only make you feel insecure or too easy for some mediocre boy to swoop in.
I think letting the boys ask you out is perfectly fine. At least then you know for sure they like you and they're not just spending time with you because you're there.
As for how to get them to ask you out... well, just smile at the boys you like and be friendly. You'd be amazed how far that will take you. Don't try to be someone you're not. It's too much work and you'll come off fake, which isn't attractive.
Remember that you can't make a boy like you, but you can make yourself more approachable so that when boys do like you they feel comfortable talking to you. Avoid crossing your arms. Try playing with your hair. These things will make you seem more open and cute.
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Thank youuuu! I'm so glad I got 2 great pieces of advice already, I'll definitely try them out ^^
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