Kendra is a young woman working as a professional in Toronto. She's a cat lover, a bookworm and has always had a deeply rooted interest in people, love and what happens when the former attempts the later.
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when a boy finger's you for the first time..
will it hurt? also wouldnt it be awkward like what are you suppose to do when he's doing that and why does it seem like thats what boys always want to do, they try to go down your pants first?! also isnt it weird when a girl gets wet. i get wet easily, keep in mind ive never had sex or really dont anything physical except kiss guys. but this guy i like, when he rubs me or tries to get down my pants i get really wet and i hate it! i feel kind of embarassed and also it feels disgusting and he doesnt know im wet either because i always push his hand away, because im scared for him to finger me and since i shave down there its not always completely smooth so i always wonder what he is going to think, like gross! or what? (link)
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First of all, don't be embarrassed. Women get wet. This is a very good thing because when you are ready to have sex, it means that you will be lubricated properly, making the sex comfortable and pleasurable.
Secondly, do not worry about the guy thinking there is something wrong with you. He'll only think he's turning you on and arousing you, which is going to boost his ego.
Thirdly, allow yourself to enjoy his touch. See, you need to learn what you enjoy and allowing your boyfriend to touch you is a great and safe way for you to figure that out. No pregnancy, no STDs, just pleasure.
Here's the thing: make sure you tell him if you want him to go slower or faster or gentler or harder or move his fingers in a certain way. Why? So he can get better at making you feel good. The only reason to let a guy touch your vagina is because you like it and it feels nice.
I am a little concerned about the fact you're shaving off your pubic hair and you're scared about your wetness. It sounds like you are not comfortable with your body. Trust me 100% on this-- males love the female body. LOVE it. They love the wetness, the smell, the look and the feel of it. Do not be ashamed. Your vagina is just fine the way it is, hair or no hair. Any guy that can't handle a little hair isn't worth bothering with because he should feel lucky you're letting him touch you at all.
I'm guessing you're a teenager. You don't know yet how much power your body has yet, how good it can feel, how good you can make a male feel.
Having said all that, make your boyfriend take it as slow as you need him to go. If you're not ready for him to touch your genitals yet, let him know. If he doesn't like it, too bad. The female gets to choose what happens sexually. If you don't put the brakes on, he sure won't. Know that any guy who won't take it as slow as you want and leaves, there's PLENTY of other guys who will be willing to take his place. Know your worth.
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thank you so much, you helped ALOT!!
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