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It's taken me a long time to admit to myself that I have low self esteem and am uncomfortable in my own skin. In most social situations I worry about what I say, how I stand, how I should act, and even how to look at people. It isn't a good feeling because I feel like it's destroyed my understanding of who I am. I know what like, what my hobbies are, and what I want to get out of life, but I just feel so confused about myself. I first started to notice this when I started to like a guy at school. I couldn't even maintain a steady conversation with him for very long and found myself questioning my actions. After that, I couldn't even sit normally. And now see how in denial I've been because I am always conscious of myself. And I take out my frustration on my parents and friends. I feel like I can change and when I do, I know I'll feel wonderful, because this has been going on for a long time now. I decided that I had to let go of liking this guy because I'm not ready to pursue someone if I don't even have a clue about myself. If anyone has any ideas or experiences with self esteem, I would appreciate you help so much. Because wow, I really need help.
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Okay--to start off, usually girls become insecure or have low self esteem issues when they don't feel beautiful. Others, may not have many friends and feel lost because of that. You have not specified which of these you are, but either way, i'll try to help as best I can.
If you feel like you're a nobody and as you said, uncomfortable in your own skin, then what I think you should do is write a list of all of the good qualities you possess (don't say you don't have any, because everyone has good qualities), like you're funny, you make friends easily, you know how to make people feel good about themselves...and read it to yourself as many times a day everyday until you feel comfortable.
Some people feel like they're not beautiful, and if that isn't extremely sad, then I don't know what is. You need to look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful in every aspect of the word. If you need confidence, have your friends help you. Friends are friends for a reason, and that reason is to help you in times of need. If you feel this unsteady, have a talk with them (or even a parent or older sibling) and tell them to help you.
You are you, and that's all you can be, but you can't be down on yourself and questioning your actions. Feel positive. Be positive. That's the only way you're going to get places.
The only person standing in your way of change is you. YOU saying YOU have low self esteem and no confidence only makes YOU feel worse. Tell yourself that you love who you are and love what you do because you're a great person.
If you feel like you can feel wonderful if you change, then do it! No one else can do it for you. You can do it, don't hesistate to feel good about who you are.
Hope this helped!
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thank you so much!
you have no idea how much youve helped!! =]
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