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heyy, i know this is long but please answer if you can. im so lost any suggestion would be amazing.

the first boy ive ever loved, kissed, gone out with, all of that is still in my head. we started daitng 3 years ago (wer both 14 now) and hes been in my head ever sense. i know he feels the same way and its scary because no matter how many times we break up we aways go back to eachother. it feels like we were destined to be together. and ithink we might be eventually. but...



whenever we have a relationship it gets so serous that im scared to even talk to him. if i do, we flirt nonstop, make all of these plans, and im scared where ittle leade. ive never been able to really get over him, i get butterflys just looking at him and i know he feels the same way. but i dont want to lose a high school experience by being with him, it hurts to talk to him because i feel it getting more serous and stronger by the minuite, but it hurts not to becayse i miss him so much. and i see him in shcool everyday and he just makes me laugh and hes never broken up with me i always break up with him because i feel myself getting too attached and i get scared and run away. i think i might really love him even though i know its not likely at this age. i know i love the way he makes me feel but icant let myself accept it. and he says he dosent want a relationship now but i know i could talk him into it but im not sure whats best. do you think theres a way i could really get over him? not talking to him isnt really an option, it would just be really awkward. hes in my classes so i have to see him everyday. i know i could try to get over him, but im not sure how to get over him for good. the second he looks at me or texts me all is lost and i fall for him again. please help


thanks SO much!

well. before you make the choice to really 'fully' get over him, do you want to? I mean if you really like him and you try this fully getting over him thing, would you regret it later? I just dont want you going through hell if he settles down with a girl and ends up dating her for a long time. So first be sure this is what you want.
You mentioned the "high school experience". by that im assuming hanging out with friends a lot, dating other people, and not being tied down. Well if you really want to get over him, start doing these things. Makke plans with friends often, go to the football games, go out in big groups, and maybe you will get to know a new guy and want to date him/get to know him better.
Im 19 now and my first serious bf was about 14 also. I still think to this day if he came back to my area (he moved far away) i would think of the old times and maybe develop some feelings in a sense. BUT i have a boyfriend of almost 3 years now..so there would definitely be nothing between us. It might just bring back some feelings. So you see, as time passes, and as new people come into your life, feelings for others and past relationships pains will fade. What im trying to say is, its natural for some feelings to remain, but they will definitely not be as intense down the road.
It soundsl ike you and your ex are pretty good friends. Stay good friends and if you find this "high school experience" is deinitely not working out for you, maybe you and this boy really are meant to have something serious.

So my main advice to recap is..go out with friends, try the dating scene because who knows you might meet someone else..and down the road if you still find yourself wanting your ex, dont deny those feelings!

well good luck i hope this helped hun!

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(Rating: 5) Thanks so much! I think things might work out with him for now. But not everything lasts forever so i might need ur tips soon!
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