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heyy, i know this is long but please answer if you can. im so lost any suggestion would be amazing.
the first boy ive ever loved, kissed, gone out with, all of that is still in my head. we started daitng 3 years ago (wer both 14 now) and hes been in my head ever sense. i know he feels the same way and its scary because no matter how many times we break up we aways go back to eachother. it feels like we were destined to be together. and ithink we might be eventually. but...
whenever we have a relationship it gets so serous that im scared to even talk to him. if i do, we flirt nonstop, make all of these plans, and im scared where ittle leade. ive never been able to really get over him, i get butterflys just looking at him and i know he feels the same way. but i dont want to lose a high school experience by being with him, it hurts to talk to him because i feel it getting more serous and stronger by the minuite, but it hurts not to becayse i miss him so much. and i see him in shcool everyday and he just makes me laugh and hes never broken up with me i always break up with him because i feel myself getting too attached and i get scared and run away. i think i might really love him even though i know its not likely at this age. i know i love the way he makes me feel but icant let myself accept it. and he says he dosent want a relationship now but i know i could talk him into it but im not sure whats best. do you think theres a way i could really get over him? not talking to him isnt really an option, it would just be really awkward. hes in my classes so i have to see him everyday. i know i could try to get over him, but im not sure how to get over him for good. the second he looks at me or texts me all is lost and i fall for him again. please help
thanks SO much!
Well, the first thing I would have to say is that if you started dating him when you were 11, that would be the start of your problem. You are too young at that age, and dating so young can make it easy to feel things that aren't really real. You probably feel so attached to him because he was your first boy friend and you weren't mature enough at that age to handle it. Actually, in my opinion, at 14, you still aren't old enough to have a boyfriend. It's just tough because you need more life experience before you are mature enough to handle it.
Chance's are you're NOT destined to be together. I was 14 when I fell in love (Now I realize I was too young to be dating then) ... I thought that she was the one I was going to marry. I just had this really strong feeling like we were supposed to be together, but we broke up... and I still thought we would get back together, because, we were meant to be. We never got back together, and it took me about a year and a half to realize, she wasn't the one for me.
Now, you're saying that you're relationships get too serious. At 14 that is bad, almost unacceptable. At that age you need to not be getting into serious things. Relationships are something that can be great, but you have to be mature enough to handle them. At that age you aren't. Most 14 year olds date because:
A. Thier friends are dating.
B. They feel immature if they DON'T
The thing is. Your not ready to date yet, and realizing that and deciding to not get yourself into situations our not ready to handle is MORE MATURE.
You yourself said that it's getting too serious for you, so just tell him.
Say this. "I'm not ready for something this serious, I'm only 14. I like you but, right now, I just can't deal with this. I'm afraid to start anything too big right now and I just need to stop this for now."
Just tell him how you're feeling...
And about getting over him.
It takes time. For me it took a year and a half, but if you don't get back with him within that time, then you'll move on. Getting over someone doesn't take a day, it takes a long time.
(Rating: 5) Yeah i know that. Okay thanks a lot. That really helped. I had to hear it! Thanks