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so let me just say that im 16 years old and so is my boyfriend and im about 99.9% sure im pregnant im taking a test when i get paid in couple days but my boyfriend and i had sex when i was ovulating we were using a condom but he must have not put it on right because it broke and we didnt notice it until after he came .. anyways

i need to tell him and my parents, my mom will be upset a bit but she would get over it quickly and i know she would help me she already said if i every got in this situation she would and im not worried about telling my parents its my boyfriend im worried about he has this whole plan to go to college and graduate and start a business and if we had a baby together at 16 then thats going to change, his parents are the opposite of mine, they don't like me to much because i dont go to church.. and they told him if he got me pregnant he would have to drop out of school and it would ruin his life and i just feel bad my friends said its not all my fault but i just feel like it is and i dont want him to have to ruin his plan he has and ah im just so stuck what should i do or say??

well i dont agree to the person below me. i mean i think if you beleived in abortion you would take that path, you did not ask us about it. and as far as adoption, Witty is first of all wrong for claiming its "retardedly" easy for babies to find homes. there are so many kids "in the system" its sad. its a fine choice if you decide on it though. this is all up to you and your boyfriend.

well with that said. this wont be easy at all. there is no easy way saying it. obviously tell him first. and discuss ideas/options. we on this site cant boss you around and tell you what to do. this is up to you and your boyfriend.

things may be rough, but luckily it sounds like your mother will be there for you. after telling your boyfriend..both of you need to go talk to her and discuss options.

he can still continue high school and down the road who knows maybe when you two are 18 you will decide to attend community college to start the first two years while the baby goes to daycare. its not a bad option to get main courses out of the way. i know this is the last thing on your mind..but its an example that there are comprimises out there and together with your boyfriend you will talk about these options.

hang tight and good luck sweetie!

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