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well i'm dating the guy who's 17 and i'm 16. when we were on our second date recently and I really like him, so I built up the courage and spontaneously kissed him in public. except he pulled bak and said we were blocking people's way ( which is true) but afterwards I didn't wana pressure him so we left it.
He confessed he was too shy to kiss in public. Is that common? I thought kissing someone you adored meant : time stops, everything around you disappears and it's only u and the other person left in that moment. It's magical:)
How can I encourage him and help build his confidence? He's the most laid back person I've ever met, and enjoys holding hands and holding my waist in public, yet he's shy about kissing? What a paradox ay? relaxed but shy...XD
Many thanks for your advice! (link)
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I tend to agree with your viewpoint, but I know plenty of people who aren't comfortable kissing in public. This could be for a variety of reasons - including simply not being comfortable doing so. This may or may not be something he is willing to change.
I suppose you might want to think about what kissing represents. If you just want to kiss him when you feel like kissing him, perhaps that needs to be toned down to a cheek or a quick peck on the lips? Starting small might mean that you're putting your guy more at ease - if he's never kissed in public, it's understandable he might not want to go whole hog.
And while I'm a fan of kissing where and when you want, it is quite nice that he was mindful of other people. Nothing is worse than blatant, ongoing, sloppy displays of affection that block everyone's way!
Kissing can also be viewed as quite an intimate thing, and if someone feels that way you can see why they might prefer to do it in private. After all, you could argue that makes it more special.
Whatever happens, I wish you (both) luck!
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Hi there, thank you for your thorough advice. I'm not sure how old you are, but you certainly sound very wise certainly good with advice. Many thanks again, I will certainly come back to you for help in the future:)
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