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i have a friend in another town, and i really cherished her as a friend because she didn't know anyone from my school and i could always say whatever i wanted and not have to worry about her biased opinion.
however, for the last few months, one of my good guyfriends (who used to have a crush on me) got really close with her and would often ask her for advice regarding his situation with me. even after he stopped liking me, he continued talking to her very, very frequently.
i am not jealous that he talks to her so much, but it really bothers me how close they are. my guyfriend often says things like, "oh yeah ______ is doing this" and i'll think, i don't remember her telling me that. why is she not telling ME?!
i have tried talking to my female friend about it, and she admitted that she felt awkward about the whole situation (there was a time period that he got a girlfriend and i stopped talking to him cause i thought he didn't want to be my friend anymore, and even through that, my friend and my guyfriend continued to stay close), but she won't stop being so close.
i hate controlling her friends; that is not my intention. i just wish she wasn't so close with him because it's very awkward for me, especially, since i really cherished her as a friend BECAUSE of the fact that she was not friends with him.
i don't want to be a bitch about it. and how am i supposed to go about solving this situation? it would come off as, "stop talking to him." i know that is, initially, what i want, but i don't want to do that to her because she does like him as a friend.
do you think i should try talking to her again or just try to forget about the whole situation? do you understand my dilemma? any suggestions?
i really really really like both as friends, just. not together. i know that some people might say "well it's better than having them both hate each other!" but i'd actually prefer that.
I know it may suck for you, but you are being very self centered right now. Sometimes you have to make sacrifices for other people. If they are friends, it may be awkward for you, but it's not fair of you to split them up, even though you may want to. Sorry...
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You are a very self-centered person. I'm giving you advice. I'm not here to tell you what you want to here. Is this what you want:
Well, since your feelings are important and theirs aren't you should tell them they can't be friends.
Is that better? You little bratty princess. I hope they both ditch you and become best friends and leave you all alone.
(Rating: 2) wow someone needs to get some sleep and not bitch and moan about one bad rating at 2 in the morninig on advicenators.