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Q: there is this guy who is a bit older than i am (we're both in college) and he works at the library ... in order to borrow anything from them i have to go through the reserve desk and that's where he works.... so anyhow... i've been doing everything: eye contact smiles everything... i've only gotten to the point where he realizes that i am interested and he acknowledges. he flirted a couple of times the day before but the next day there was less eye contact (though he would acknowledge my presence by smiling or looking or smiling to himself when i look over) i don't want to seem desperate or basically young and clingy but thats the way i feel when i see him... my stomach goes in knots and i can't help but look to see if he is there (he is a master's candidate and i am a senior- he pointed that out casually to "us" and my research group when we wanted to borrow projector equipment and so on).....
what should i do? i mean how do i get him to do something? and what should i say to him while returning stuff... what kind of small talk should i initiate?? AND HOW DO I KNW HE LIKES ME! i am Hispanic so i have a very small waistline and small bust and hugeeee thighs and knees (pear shaped) compared to the proportions of Caucasians which makes me feel very very conscious ... i am really confused i mean how do i tell if he finds me unattractive?!?!?!
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Ask him about his work as a masters candidate. And if he starts to really get into the conversation (i.e. becomes more animated, etc) ask if he would like to talk some more about it over coffee.
It's taking the initiative but not a very strong one. It lets him know that you're interested and lets you learn more about him.
And if you're not feeling brave enough, talk about the books that you're checking out or casually talk about your classes. ("*sigh* Humanities 425 is a boring class.") Maybe he's taken it before.
cheers,
stargirl
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ahh i don't know if i've got the nerves! i am so excited but so nervous!!
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I like helping people. Yeah, that's about it.
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Gender: Female Age: 21 Member Since: July 23, 2008 Answers: 206 Last Update: October 21, 2008 Visitors: 10166
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