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Hi! My name is Kayla.. I'm 21. Through out life, I've had quite a bit of rocky roads and difficult dilemmas. They sucked at the time, but now I've become a call for help.I do it because I enjoy it.
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let me start out by saying im not the most prettiest girl in the world, but apparently my personality hooks. i have a boyfriend of 8 months, whom we've had our ups and downs, and we plan our future out together.. but lately, things have been going down. we dont talk as much, i dont feel much attention from him, etc. due to the fact that he's been moving, very busy with family and taking care of his baby brother and other siblings.. here comes the harsh part.. there are 4 other guys who like me. and im not talking about only after 2 weeks of knowing eachothr.. apparently its after years... or at least a year. how did i come to find out? they told me.. these four guys are my friends.. cool friends.. idk what to do. it' like they give me more atention than my own boyfriend :( and i would never cheat on my boyfriend.. or in general. any advicce?
p.s- ive already talked to my bf about the whole not feeling loved nor being given attention. and he's trying but, this busyness builds his frustration.. nd cause arguments. but the love somehow still seems there...
If it's love, then there should be no question right now. If it's love, then you have nothing that you can do right now, except be patient. If the busy life for him is only temporary, then hopefully things will pick up for you and him.
In the mean time, tell those boys what you feel for your boyfriend. They're hitting the stove while it's hot, so they know what they're doing. But, if they are nice boys, then not only will they understand that you care for your boyfriend, but they'll expect you to be nothing but honest with them in return. They haven't done anything wrong-- it's been about interest. Therefore, explain that they're nice boys, but you have a boyfriend. You should have no problem saying this.
Buttttttttt.. back to the boyfriend. Things do need to change. If this is just a faze then okay, but really? No girlfriend should have to go this long without feeling loved or attention. There was ways to show those things, even if one of them is very busy.
Good luck.
(Rating: 5) thanks so much for your advice :)