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Ok well something has happened and i dont know how to feel. There is this guy but comes off as really immature, concieted, and just a plain jerk sometimes. But when we are alone he seems so sweet.
And he told my little brother, (they are friends) that he thought i was hott and was going on and on about how he couldnt wait to meet me. And when we did meet (he lives in my home state, i reside 6 hours away) he was asking me questions about me like my intrests and my hobbies. But if there were other girls around or his friends it was like i was a burden. And it really hurt. But at the same time it makes me want him more. All i ever tried to do was be friends with him, even though i wanted more. My dad said he is always asking about me and going into my room.
He has a crush on this 12 year old, and he is 16, but he untied her binkini top and it made me mad because this little girl is like my little sister. So i seriuosly wanted to kill him. Because it hurt her so much.
When i was there for the summer i saw him talking to one of our neighbors so i went up and said hi and the neighbor said "your girlfriend is waiting for you tyler." and he said "she isnt my girlfriend, and still she lives in kentucky." and the neighbor started saying if tyler did anything i didnt like to tell him and he would kill him.
Whats going on because i dont know what to feel or what to think or what to do???!!! (link)
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I hate to tell you something you don't want to hear, but you are best off staying clear of this guy until he can stop being a pervert. Understand that this is not too far from being a normal guy, if he had untied another 16 year olds top. My best friend growing up would do things like this when he was about that age, he once pulled a girls tube top down, (hope you know what that is), exposing her in front of me. This girl was our age and it was all in fun, but he was going out with her, to say it was not nice would be an understatement.
The guy you're talking about went further with it though and exposed, (or tried to expose), a 12 year old girl. At 16, he should know that is very inappropriate, I'm sure he does, but did it anyway. This tells me he has an attitude of looking at girls as easy victims. He's going to get his jollies any way he can and there is a better then 50% chance he will be a rapist before his 18th birthday.
When a guy ignores you when other people are around, it should give you a good idea of what he really thinks of you. If he had any respect for you at all, he would be going out of his way to make you feel comfortable around them, not alienated.
Many Girls, like yourself, are attracted to these kind of guys. Some, because, they think so little of themselves, they think this is the kind of guy they deserve. Some, because, they think that these guys are what men are suppose to be like. Pretty much all of these girls, sooner or later, come to realize that they are wrong. A real man's strength does not come from being a jerk and an as*whole, it comes from wanting to protect you from everything, because he can't imagine being with out you. And when I say everything, I mean even himself.
All guys have their softer, kinder side, but don't be suckered in dear one. If he is willing to hurt your's and others feelings, there is not much he is not capable of at this time in life. Distance yourself from him, check in with him when he hits 25 years old, see if he's changed, I'll bet you money right now that he will not have.
Be well good lady and never settle for a sloppy joe, when you can have a sirloin steak. Keep looking, he's out there.
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Rating: 5
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Thank you!! Haha you sound like a juicy sirloin steak!!
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