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Hii Advicenators!
Okay. This question is about a boy. Hes 14 just like me, also starting high school after the summer (even though were going to different ones).
I threw a party, & my friend invited him & a few of his friends because they are family friends of hers. I didnt mind because i knew of them, my close friends (who were all at the party) were really close with them so i knew they werent dangerous or anything. We ended up going swimming so i was soaking wet & even though he didnt want to get wet he came & sat next to me. Because i motioned for him to. & we were talking for...maybe five minuites. But i was the one who started conversation. Apearantly it was a big deal that he was sitting there talking to me because he usually dosent do that...or so his best friend (whos my close friend) said. & he was all like "oh yeah my dads company is you ever want a belt i could just bring you one" and so thats another sign i think! & he was smiling the whole time! (Well so was i!) & im a really big flirt so its pretty obvious that i like him im sending him all the signals. & im always making the first move you know? & hes pretty shy. We've been talking every day since then but theyr really short conversations & we dont say anything. Im trying to make conversation but i keep getting short answers & it just gets so frustrating so i end the conversation. But i have a feeling he likes me. At the party he gave me one of those looks with a huge smile & he didnt look away for like 5 whole seconds even though we were both walking in different directions. I know he wouldnt be flirting if he didnt like me because thats not how he is.
So my question is, how can i tell if he likes me or if hes being nice or whatever?
& my second question, how do i get him to open up & be more comftorble around me? How do i get somthing besides these one word answers?
Thanks so much! (link)
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Sweetheart, this guy is not ready for anything serious, so take it as it is. Frankly, most boys this age and older are not ready for anything serious. You should have been told by this age that girls mature mentally much faster then boys, so stop expecting him to be Brad Pitt, or whom ever you worship now a days.
Time is the only thing that will bring comfort for him, but it may be a long wait, so get use to carrying the conversation.
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Thanks thats great advice! I guess hes not gna be my prad pitt aw but im not looking for anything serous so its okay! I just want a small summer fling =) so if you want to answer considering you have this newfound information thatd be fabulous & if not thats great too..
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