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well i have this best friend and hes so great! i really want him to like me more than a friend but i dont know why! i kinda think i like him but im not sure. i dont know if i just want him to like me because i crave guy attention or because i like him. i just know hes just what i look for in a guy. but his family is also my familys best friends so i would be very apprehensive of dating because what about when we broke up???? AWKWARD!! his family comes over all the time and he and i are best friends and i would be afraid things would end badly. Anyway! back to the main point: how can i know if i want him to like me because i like him or because i crave guy attention or what? i would rather date a guy like him whos family isnt so close to mine but i dont know any as good as him. please help! i keep debating this and im so confused!! just tell me what you think and how to figure out if i like him because i know you cant tell me if i like him or not but you can help! thanks!!! :)
ps i got jealous because hes been talking to my bff (who lives really far away so i kno they wont ever date or anything but still) because i want him to be interested in ME (link)
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I'm amazed, your actually asking the right question here and to top it off, you seem to know yourself, I am near speechless.
You sound very much to me like you like this guy and the confusion probably comes from the fact that you have already given your love to him and don't realize it. Now don't jump on this and react, love is a very easy thing to give, it's not like that is the challenge here. The main thing is that you find out your answers and none of us here can give them to you. Time will give them to you. You are doing great, exactly what you should be doing, exploring your feelings and trying to understand just exactly what they are. Continue this until you know for sure, it's good to learn and grow.
Continue to shine dear one.
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