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16/female.
last summer i had this i guess you can say "fling" with this guy who WAS my best friend.. then well we started to like eachother..
well apperently the fling thing didnt work out and he ended it. So ive been tring to heal and move on. Its been super hard and ever guy i start to like doesnt even compare to him.
Well this summer i started to actually be friends with him again and well i still like him and he still likes me so i guess we started to "talk" again and we even talked about what happen last time and said this time we didnt wanna fling and both want to start at the beginning to get to no each other over again and well it seems pretty okay but im not sure i can open up and let him in again cuz i havent let anyone in after the first time.
everyone ive gotten close to for the past 3 years has left...
any advise on if i should try and trust him again??? (link)
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I don't see where this is a trust issue, I see this as two people who were not ready to take a relationship to the level of having sex and still are not.
Why is that so hard to understand? Why is there always such a rush to sex? That is suppose to be the final goal in a relationship, not just something we do for fun. You want a pass time, try golf, or play cards. You skipped so many steps it doomed your relationship, learn from that and do it right this time. Go Sloooooow.
Follow up,
You should be a little more careful of your choice of words then and explain yourself better. I don't know of many people that would not associate the word "Fling" in quotes as meaning a sexual fling. Don't blame me for thinking you are too young, or shy to use the proper words.
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i said nothing about having sex in that whole thing. NOTHING in my issues is about sex.
and trust me no ones rushing.
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