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Q: My girlfriend and I have been dating for around 4 and a half months. Her parents had no clue we were dating and thought I was just another best friend. She is on vacation right now and her parents found some notes and flowers she took from me. They found out we were dating and had kind of suspected it before. They talked to her and said that its unhealthy since we sometimes argue and in their own opinion to much. I see it different. WE don't fight all the time and plus I hear its healthy and brings two people closer when they fight in the end of things. Look, now I know this relationship won't last forever but I did nothing she says and that she doesn't have feelings for me anymore. She gets harsh with me and is trying to get over me so I can do the same and thats her way of doing things. I can't get over her fast, I think i am in love and she isn't even in town and saying all of this. I saw her last thursday night and we kissed goodbye and that she will see me soon. She was extremely happy with us. Its almost like her parents have put her in this illusion and brain wash thing. She isn't like this at all and has also told me and her best friend that there is a 0% chance of us getting back together which I hope isn't true. It isn't fair to either one of us..I just want to know why she is doing this so fast and painful..
Well she may have been thinking about it for a while, or she is just trying to avoid a conflict with her parents and is therefore breaking it off with you. I think the best thing for you to do is just give her the space she wants, don't pressure her into talking to you, or getting back with you or anything. Let her have this vacation then maybe when she gets back you guys can talk about it and decide whether you want to just be friends, or maybe try the relationship againg.

Try and keep your mind off of things, hang out with friends, get a hobby, and talk to people about it. Talking helps you get alot of things out into the open and it often helps you cope with the problem.

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this really did help me thank you so much.

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I am a 19 year old female. I am the least judgmental person you will ever meet. I am funny. I am free-willed. I am a lover. I am a friend. I have been through alot & many people call me their guru. & I will try to give you the healthiest advice possible. I may be young but I have a lot of life experiences in many areas, and since my career will be giving advice I figured I'd give a head start. I can be blunt and will give you my honest opinion, although I will do it in a nice way.
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