hey there (:
im shannon.
i play volleyball.
im 13, but ive been told i possess much wisdomm for my age.
i'm here to answer any questions you might have.
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I work with a girl who is 23. I am almost 50. She seems to be flirting with me. She is very attractive and I really do like her. But she has a very strange habit of coming up behind me and clamping her hand over my mouth--sometimes both hands. The girl likes to do this while I am talking to someone. And she does not seem to know when to let go. It is very embarrassing to be talking and then find her long white hands clapped tightly over my mouth and muffling my speech as I struggle to try to remove them. She does this on a daily basis.
I have asked her why she does this. She said she loves covering men's mouths with her hands. The girl tells me its a control thing and a power thing with her. She wants everyone to see me with a woman's hand over my mouth. It lets her be in control and shows that she decides whether or not I am allowed to talk. This is quite embarrassing to be seen and heard this way with her hand over my mouth in public.
I have asked her to stop but she says she can't. I have even gone into my office to avoid the girl. She will come into my office and sneak up on me and put her hnds over my mouth and giggle. If I play along or try to ignore her, it only gets worse. She will stubbornly keep her hands over my mouth for as long as 15 or 20 minutes until I speak for her! The girl says she wants to hear the muffled sound of my voice in her hands trying to talk. If a student walks in, she does not let go and I am forced to pry her hands away.
I am too embarrassed about this to report her to anyone. I prefer to deal with her on a personal level. Besides, there is a strange part of me that kinda liks it--and I think she knows that. It is probably best for both of us if she stops this behavior. How can I reason with her and get her to stop putting her hands over my mouth? What can I say to her if she is using this as a way of flirting and she suspects I do like it on some level? (link)
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well, if it really is annoying you, you need to say something to her.
just simply tell her that its getting in the way of you trying to have a conversation with someone and very nicely ask her to stop, thats really all you can do
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For a 13-year-old, you are very practical and mature. I like your direct honesty and frankness. Maybe your advice will work, maybe it won't. But I don't think anyone could give any better advice than you did. Thanks for listening and giving my question your best shot. Most advice givers don't even give me a response. I may be 50 but I can learn something from a 13-year-old girl who knows how to look at things in a more realistic way.
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