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Im 13 Years Old I've Had Many Bad Boyfriends.This Year I Met A Guy Named Freddy He's 14.I've Liked Him For 10 Months Now.We Really Got To Know Earlier In The Year & EVERYONE Was Saying He Was Into Me.The Day I Was going to Ask Him Out He Started Going Out WIth Another Girl Which Got Me Really Confused because We Started Out So Strong &Had Everythin In Common.Throughout This Year I've Had Many Guys Ask Me Out & I Said No because I Cant Get Over Freddy. Im Still Not Over Him & Now He Is Single & Im Too Scared To Ask Him Out because I Dont Know If He Likes Me Anymore Or If He Ever Did Like Me.Im Really Heartbroken because This Happens To Me Everytime & I Really Think He's The One.I dont Want Another Guy because I See Everything In Him. Now I Hurt Myself.I Began Cutting Myself About 2 Weeks Ago because The Year Is Ending & I Wont See Him Next Year. Im Also Getting Sick Over It Lately I Havnt Been Eating Well & I Cant Sleep & Im Always Crying Or Throwing Up From Crying So Much.I Just Cant Let Him Go.He Doesnt Know Im Upset Or That Im Cutting Myself Really Badly.I Cant Get Over Him I Feel Like Dying Is The Way Outta This Pain That I Feel. How Do I Make It Stop.
If Anyone Wants To IM Me On AIM Its 2:25 AM Right Now & Im Still Up I'll Probually Be Up The Rest Of The Night But Feel Free To IM Me My SN is
XxLuv HaRdCoRexX
This negative energy needs to stop. You have to come to terms with yourself before you deal with this. YOU are the only person that you can ever rely on for your happiness. Hoping on external sources (such as Freddy) will leave you desperately vunerable. You need some quality time alone, in my opinion. You absolutely MUST quit cutting yourself. Somewhere inside you`re an amazing person. You care so much for Freddy and that is honourable. However, you cannot let it run your life. Self-abuse ruins your self-esteem and self-confidence.
You need to work on yourself. Do not make yourself suffer by cutting or feeling really down. It`s okay to be sad, but it means you need time to appreciate yourself. Grab a happy movie, your favourite snack, & a box of tissues. You need some time to get in touch with how you feel rather than letting it overwhelm you. All of this stress is not good for your health, either. Take a night to relax, then get a good nights rest. When you feel up to it, spend some time with your family and friends to get your mind off of this. Be nice to yourself, you deserve it.
Once you`ve regained your appreciation for yourself, your life, and your self-esteem you can take action. You need to talk to Freddy, but it doesn`t need to be a serious, intimidating talk. Compliment him, you can tell him what`s great about him. This shows your interest and that you really appreciate who he is as a person. You can do this over the phone or computer because you will not be able to see him. Let him know that you`d love to spend time with him when you two get the chance.
If you really feel the need, tell him you really like him. Otherwise you really should spend the summer enjoying focussing on yourself. Once you build your self-confidence up again you`ll feel way better. Your personality will be able to shine through. Love yourself and others will come to love you as well.
Take control back over your life and emotions and the heartbreak will fade. Relationships, especially in the teen years, are supposed to be for enjoyment. To make you happy. Spending time with a boyfriend is supposed to be fun and an opportunity to become close and trusting with someone. Don`t stress too much, you have your whole life ahead of you and there are going to be many situations which are less than great. It`s how you deal with them and how you feel about yourself which ultimately determine how happy you are.
If you need more advice, let me know. Sorry, I do not have AIM, but I will try to help you however possible. Now go, enjoy summer, enjoy your life, enjoy being yourself, take control of your life, and finally, remember you deserve happiness so go ahead and get it.
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Thank you so much. I did what you said and took sometime to myself to hang out with my other friends. we went to see concert
(A Murder Love Affair) in new york city tonight. we went to my favorite resurant too i actually feel alot better now. my heart is still broken but i think that if i keep it up the pain will go away. anyway this is still gonna be the best summer of my life im gonna be on tour with my band and i really cant wait,ive been wanting to go on tour since i started playing bass when i was 8 and i shouldnt let freddy stop me from making my dream come true. my friends also thank you for making me feel better they said that if i didnt read your advice i probually wouldnt have had as much fun as i did tonight and i didnt think about freddy once. thanx so much.
-MiMi
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