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I am 30 years old, female, and I have been married for 10 years. We have two children, ages 7 and 8. I love my husband and I would describe our relationship as a good one.
My problem is I think about my ex boyfriend. A lot. As in every day a lot. Where this starts to become strangely pathetic is the fact that I haven't seen him or had contact with him in 13 years. He was my boyfriend my junior year of high school. We were only together a few months. Our relationship ended when he dumped me, and I (being 17 and completely emotional) was heartbroken. I got married when I was 20, and I dated a few guys between this ex and my husband. I never give any of the others a second thought.
It really bothers me that I still think about him so much, especially after SO MUCH time has gone by. I know they say you never forget your first love, but this has become beyond ridiculous. I'm far too humiliated to admit this to any of my friends and family. This may sound trivial, but it's become a minor form of torture and is interfering with my life and peace. Please tell me, what can I do to stop this stupidity? (link)
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You didn't mention if you're a Christian or not, but I am going to approach this from a spiritual point of view. We have an enemy of our souls who loves to get in our heads and mess around. The break down of the family is a power weapon the enemy uses to have his way. If he can lure you away from your husband, he gets a strong-hold in your life because your protection is gone.
I know your eyes are going to get big at this response, but you need to tell your husband about these thoughts. The enemy will put every reason in your mind as to why you shouldn't tell him, but do it anyway. Being "far to humiliated" is one of the tactics the enemy is already using to condemn you which is preventing you from telling your husband (or anyone you know). You obviously realize the seriousness of what's happening because you told me and that's a terrific start, but by telling your husband, the marriage bond you have strengthens. The enemy can't stand against it.
If you don't bring this out from its secret place and shine light on it by telling your husband, I can bet it won't be long and you will find yourself acting on the thoughts. The thoughts themselves are disrupting your life, acting on them will destroy it.
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Thanks for the advice from a spiritual point of view. It was helpful!
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