So every time my boyfriend and I are doing anything together, I feel huge. I’m 5’4” and 135 lbs. I weigh a lot more than I want to weigh. And my boyfriend is only 5’8” and 145 lbs. He’s really skinny and muscular and whenever he’s touching me I always feel like he thinks I’m fat because I’m like the same size as him.
And, I’m not usually like this, but whenever I’m eating with him, I always eat way less than I want to because I feel like he’ll think I’m a fat ass. I feel really insecure about my body when I’m with him. And ever since we’ve been going out I feel the frantic need to lose weight. I’ve been eating like 600 calories a day and doing an hour and a half of elliptical every day. I still have only lost 2 lbs after a week and I feel horrible about it.
My question is to girls that have been with guys that are thinner than them. How did you feel confident about your body when you were with him? I always feel like he’s judging me, I mean I don’t know if he is, because I’ve never talked to him about it, but I feel like he is.
Wow, you sure hit the nail on the head. I feel like that a lot too. And the most frustrating part was that I couldn't lose the weight, and obviously I wasn't going to make him GAIN it to make myself feel better. Haha. Regardless, its common to be insecure about your own weight. You have to keep in mind that you are at a normal weight, and that he is skinny. If you were to be skinny like that, you wouldn't be as beautiful as you are. Being thin may work for him, but chances are, it won't work for you. As long as he likes you and doesn't "think you're a fat ass", then there really isn't any true issue. The rest that must be overcome is mental. Your boyfriend doesn't have to be bigger than you!
(Wow, I feel like I just gave myself therapy too! Haha.)
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Thanks, that helped a lot.
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