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okay 16/f, i have this boyfriend, and we've been going out for 7 months and he is very respectful and is in love with me and treats me right, but i've told him i wasn't comfortable going too far, with sex and he understands, but he like expects me to when we've been going out for a year..and i don't want to like dispoint him or make him wait for me, cause i dont know when i'll be ready. He is 100 percent comfortable with me, but i dont know why i'm not 100 comfortable with him, which can be the problem, im also scared to do some sexual things like head or fingering me, and i dont know whyy. so i believe that from my lack of sexuality he watches porn, but i feel like since he does, my expectations of those girls are higher and that im being compared and even if he doesn't see it like that or compare me in any way i feel like it does, but i'm just mental about the whole situation. i don't know what to do to make myself relax or feel more comfortable or do i just have to wait untill im comfortable whenever that will be. and i dont know what to do about my boyfriend because i don't want him to feel like hes gonna get something i'm not sure he will. so please give me advice thanks (link)
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Okay, first, calm down. I don't know how, but you wrote with such an intensity that I've never even dreamed of and it kind of freaked me out.
Now, as for the ACTUAL advice...
This one's not that hard: if you're not ready for sex, then you're not ready for sex. Simple as that. I mean sex is no casual subject. If either end of the relationship is not ready for it, then the other end will just have to wait. If your boyfriend really loves you, he will respect your decision and wait, which, by the way, he is, via porn.
Speaking of the porn, if he loves you, it shouldn't effect his image of you.
So just keep on waiting until the time is right. I'm sure both of you will be happy you did.
...and.... I don't know... type slower. Maybe that'll help with the intensity issue...
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hahaha yeah im sorry that was alittle much intense. but thank you, you helped me realize the situation better
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