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16/f I'm obsessed with sweets and crave them like 24/7. I've been losing weight and looking how I want to lately..and its all fine. But when I see sweets, I can't control myself and I feel as if all that hard work losing weight is going down the toilet. I eat right and I exercise...but its the sweets that drive me insane. I know a certain point when to stop.....like i'll tell myself NO dont eat that! And I'll stop. But sometimes I can't help it and I go easy on myself and allow myself to eat and eat and eat. How can I stop this? :| (link)
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Mmmm, sweets, few among us don't like them. They are an addiction, your body gets used to them to a point of with drawl if you don't have them. Sugar is the main culprit here.
Like any addiction, you will never escape it until that little voice, (well in my case it's a big booming voice), in the back of your head stops telling you how badly you want it.
But, I'll give you a tip, always eat 80% of your calories before 2:00 in the afternoon. If you are going to eat sweets, eat then before that so your body has time to burn the calories and stop thinking of sweets as food. They are not, they are empty calories, near straight sugar that burns up and eventually brings you down.
Do yourself a favor, don't drink soft drinks, (full of sugar), save it for your sweets. Water, or juices, but even juices have sugar, (sometimes a lot), and they can fill that need for sugar. (Something interesting for you to know, I worked at a place very shortly that claimed "The best buns in town", do you know what their secret is, a lot of sugar, so beware.) Try eating more fruit when you feel like a treat, seems like a treat and is much better for you.
Another side note, I heard said recently that thirst can cause feelings just like hunger pangs and you should always try drinking a glass of water first, after 20 minutes or so, if the feeling hasn't gone away, then it's hunger.
Hope I helped,
An addict from way back and still struggling.
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Thanks! I'll try the water thing and I'll try not to eat before 2 :)
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