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Q: why would a boy get all flustered when you started talking to him again? My ex boyfriend and i used to be amazing friends and broke up a little over a month ago. i have been trying to talk to him for a while but then we just stopped. im moving in 2 weeks so today when i saw him i asked him if he would be at youth group next week. he got all flustered and was like "well i dont know what im doing, maybe." and i was like "ok well do you think you will?" and he was like i dont know what im doing!!" and then i said "ok, well you dont have to yell. i just wanted to say bye" he does that everytime i ask him something like before it was if we could hangout and he would be like "IDK IM BUSY and i have stuff to do" why does he do this? neever before when we were dating would he do this just since we broke up. thank you so much!! :) ned an answer ASAP because im seeing him tonight--thanx
Well you have a completely different relationship with someone after you break-up than when you are together. Once you have dated someone and have been in that certain situation with them, then you break-up things are never going to be the same again. Not that that is a bad thing, but it can be sometimes, as in your situation. It is effected by who broke up with whom, if you broke up with him then he could feel hurt and awkward around you. Therefore, he is trying to avoid you so he doesn't have to be in an awkward situation. If he broke-up with you then maybe he feels like he hurt you and just doesn't feel comfortable being near you because he feels that he hurt you. Boys are confusing. I think your best bet would be to just give him some space and maybe after you move you can communicate through AIM, IM, ICQ, Myspace, etc., or someother type of internet communication and maybe that will help to salvage a relationship with him.

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thanks :) very helful advice!!

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