I am a father of three, girl, boy, girl, all are now over 18. I have been married for 29 years as of 6-30-07, so yes, if you do the math I was married at 18, just after graduating high school. I am very aware of the pit falls of doing so, but we made it through the really tough times. I came to this site, because of my daughter, she also uses the site.
I am an author and have written three books, only one under this name, but it is not how I make my living. I am in business, working full time and I have a seasonal business in ponds, selling Koi, goldfish, water plants and supplies. I help people to plan and build ponds, as well as, maintenance if they need it.
I am not here for the ratings and could careless what you rate me. I will tell you things I know, I will tell you what you don't want to hear, but most of all, I will tell you things from my perspective. I have experienced a lot in my life, I have not lived with my head in the sand and I'm a realist, you want someone to blow smoke up your as*, don't read my writings, (I don't do fairy tales).
I am not so foolish as to think I am always right, I can only tell you what I know and give you something to think about. It is up to you to find out if I'm right or not.
Life is complicated, because people are complicated and one answer does not necessarily fit all, but that doesn't mean you should not consider what I say as a possibility.
Feel free to write me personally if you wish, there is only so much you can say in such a restrictive environment as this site is, it doesn't allow for proper conversation.
Thank you for coming to my column and giving me the chance to help.
E-mail: gibber@cableone.net
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Age: 53
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Is it normal to be depressed about not knowing your purpose in life? Depressed like it randomly puts you in a not so great mood and you walk around feeling sad.. not suicidal or anything. Also, any suggestions how to come out of this mood of constant unhappiness? (link)
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Purpose, the age old question, why am I here? To learn and grow. Is it that simple, no, but it's where you start. The Human Being is a combining of two things, the Human animal and the spiritual Being. The purpose in life is to let the spirit lead and control in order to grow stronger.
Don't mistake depression for your need to reflect on the hard questions in life and don't let things like this determine how you treat others. Many people get yelled at, then turn and yell at the next person to come along. That person has just given their control to someone else, why would you want to do that?
Act upon a situation, not react. You are reacting to thoughts going through your head and allowing that to control what you do and they are totally unrelated to your actions. Act upon each situation separate from your pondering of life's questions.
I have given you the place to start, let your life and your spirit teach you the rest.
Your response to me was:
Being upset doesn't mean treating others poorly. Otherwise, good advice.
Now the 3 rating doesn't bother me, I don't care about ratings, but where the heck does this response come from. I never advised you, or suggested that you should treat others poorly, I advised you to not treat others poorly just because someone else does something to you, or that your confused about thoughts running through your head. You should read my post again and stop taking me out of context.
Now if you were trying to say I implied that you are, I was not, but I guess I could see a place where you might have taken it that way, but it is not what your response says to me. When I talked about reacting, that was to say that you are reacting to your thoughts negatively causing you to act differently, change your mood and make you sad and this can lead to you treating others improperly, maybe I didn't explain that properly. I'm sorry I wasn't clear enough for you. I'm sorry if that sounds like I have an attitude, but it is not meant to sound that way, just my bluntness showing again.
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Rating: 3
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Being upset doesn't mean treating others poorly. Otherwise, good advice.
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