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i never go to parties because i don't drink. i know it's possible to go and not drink, but the problem is i hate being around drunk people. plus it's virtually impossible in college for me to find a party where there isn't drinking.
it's so different when you ARE drunk then when you're just observing. when you're drunk, it's all fun and games, but when you're observing, people just get stupid and annoying.
anyways, how do i go about this problem? because i really wanna get out more but i don't like drinking. (link)
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Hey, a kindred spirit. I don't like drunks either, think most sober people don't. Use to be women went to college to find a husband and would drop out when they did. Now, women go to college and actually graduate. I can't help but think, is this the reason and if it is, this is a great plus to it.
I know this is kind of contradicting, but don't rule out all bars, parties yes, look for guys that are not drinking to get drunk. I must give a plug to churches, if you attend one, that's where I met my wife way back when. Watch for community events and find some friends that are slightly out of college age, or are just not going to college. Married friends are great, they often know guys who are not, but don't actively have then seek for you, you'll meet them sooner or later.
We often find what we are looking for, when we are not looking for it.
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