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so my boyfriend likes to play these games i guess you could call them where he pulls the strings of my hoodie and sometimes he hits me in the face like never hard just little taps and like yesterday it went to far he hit me really hard and it left a mark.. he knows i dont even like it when he does it softly and i told my best friend because i was crying.. and she was like im gonna go after that stupid a**hole and then some of my other friends found out and said the same thing.. im really afraid if my ex finds out hes gonna like beat him up really badly because my ex is like one of my best friends now and .. if he finds out my boyfriend will like end up in the hospital everyone says i should dump my boyfriend .. the thing is he said he was joking and it was an accident but we were arguing while it happened so and we definitely wernt joking around so i dont know what to do.. what do other people think i should do?

Heyy, i understand your problem. First, you should realize that him hitting you is veryyy serious. You said he usually hits you softly, just joking around, and i get that, but this time it wasn't a joke. It is possible that it was an accident and he didn't mean to do it so hard, but the way you described it, it isn't likely.

You have to ask yourself, is he worth it? If he treats you badly, dump his ass. You could find someone else, someone better. If you really do love him, you have to talk to him about it. You have to make sure he knows that this will never happen again and if it does you'll leave him right away, then hopefully things will be okayy. Everyone makes mistakes sometimes . . . But if he does start getting violent, don't wait around, and of course if it ever gets to the point where you are scared of him or scared to leave him, tell someone.

For now i would just talk to him and make sure he knows he did something really bad and it can nott happen again. Unless you want to dump him, then go right ahead. Also, if your ex is your best friend, i would let him know what you are going to do and make sure he doesn't start something with your BF, let him know that them getting into a fight won't help the situation, only make things worse.

Sorry this is so long, i really hope things work out and that i helped! Lemme know how it goes =]

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