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Basically I have a huge group of friends - about 15 of us. And last year some of them began to bitch about me, and then just because one didn't like me - none of them did and they just bumlick of eachother and suck up to eachother and we are bloody sixteen. Well this year we all forgot about it and now it went really well. The only reason why some didn't like me was of my personality but they went around saying all this horrible stuff making out a crime that im kind to others or i'm clever etc etc. Now its my friends birthday and they are asking her to uninvite me which i think is really rude as
1 - I know she likes me
2 - she's a bumlicker and will give into them
3 - they all asked me to go
4 - when they say they dont like someone they say it straight up but why not with me?
and it really annoys because if one of them is feelig sick its " oh so and so what can i do to help" but if its me its " oh leave that fool she's attention seeking" which is SO RUDE and it makes me so angry.
I cant confront them because i will be killed and if i lose them, i basically have noone [ apart from one who is jsut the best friend who lvoes me to bits]. We are all friends but they are totally bitchy and two faced
What the hell do i do? One minute they like me, next they dont and ive never caused ANY HARM to them.?? (link)
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Gee, two questions in one day that the writer won't like my answer, I am so blessed. It is time for you to find new friends. Chances are they do this to other people and you either follow along with it, or don't notice that they are doing this. When it is directed at you, then you notice and find out how it is to live on the other side of this kind of behavior.
Leave the group quietly and actively search for new friends, you may actually be surprised by some that follow you away from the group. Growing up and away from those who don't want to is not wrong, don't let these "people" hold you back from who you want to become.
Nice people are a good target for those who are not so nice. They are trying to "keep you in your place" little puppy. Pack mentality is a strange thing, do some research on it if you really want to know about it.
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No I do you like your answer - your totally right i just needed my head cleared because ive known for a while but your totally right, i'll leave quietly and see what happens. I dont need them
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